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Four Steps to See if You’re Ready for a Relationship

1. Is there room in your life for another person?

2. Have you finished forgiving the last relationship in your life?

3. Are you ready emotionally to share an intimate part of your life with someone            else?

4. Can you make someone else a priority in your life?

Let’s start with number one. Is there room in your life? I know a gal who is still married to her husband, but living in a different room—part of the house, because of their children. They are legally divorced, but financially very dependent for the sake of the children and for time constraints. She wants to move on and is ready, but what exactly in her life says that she has room for another human being in her life?

If you want the universe to see that you are ready for a real relationship, you must make the space for this special person first. It’s like getting pregnant and forgetting to make space for the new baby. Most people prepare a room for the new child, decorated according to the gender. Then they put all the things one would need for a baby in the room. When the baby comes, they are prepared. You have to make room for it first!

Step Two: If Forgiveness from the last relationship hasn’t happened at the core of your being, then it’s going to come back up to bite you in the ass in your new relationship. Let me tell you that your new partner will take the shape and form of your old relationship, because you haven’t learned the very important lesson you needed to learn from the last relationship. Grieve, hit a punching bag, take a course in Forgiveness, but get it out before you bring your hate into another relationship.

Step Three: Emotional Readiness. Only you can know that you have had enough time to be with yourself and your emotions after a long or short relationship. It could have been a death, a divorce, or simply a parting of ways, but all endings translate to death in our minds. There is a grieving that must take place and a period of time that our hearts need to heal before we can move on.

A sure sign of healing is when you start to desire to meet new people. If you are sulking in your house and don’t want to get out, you are probably still in the grieving stage. Some people take years to get over a lost love. Of course, that being said, sometimes they need a little push to get out of that slump too. But mostly, you know in your heart when you are ready, and no counselor or therapist can really tell you when your heart is ready.

Lastly, prioritizing for another person. Most people don’t know the statistics about this. But it is true that in relationship that with children, the marital relationship should take priority. It is very important to establish a healthy balance with your children in your own love life, so that they can see that they don’t control you or your love for someone else. Almost every psychological study shows that this is true for all family relationships.

This prioritizing may also include taking time from work to make the person in your life feel like he or she is worth your attention. One thing is for certain, in an intimate relationship, you should feel—and have the right to feel—that you are the most important person to that individual. Everyone deserves that right in relationship. If you don’t have that, then you aren’t in a secure relationship.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and LifeCoach, available for private sessions to Quit Smoking, Lose Weight with the new Lap Band-Hypnosis, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. Your connection to me blesses me in everyway possible. And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN atBosebastian5@gmail.com; or find me at www.bosebastian.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon, just by typing my name in the header.

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What I Never Expected in the Small Box Under the Tree

Have you ever played Secret Santa and picked a box that you were sure had the perfect gift in it, only to find out that it was a Russian nesting of boxes that ended up one small box of coal?

This week I opened up my heart to something that was completely unexpected. The box seemed simple and unassuming—the ribbon tidy—the color of the wrap pleasing to the eye. But when I opened it, something popped out that didn’t match what I was looking for at all.

I mentioned in yesterday’s post about opening your heart to new things in your life to keep life exciting. I think I should add to that unwrapping a gift that is not the one you normally pick and see what unfolds.

I’ve had a smile on my face for two days just thinking about how far in advance God had to plan for to surprise me—10 years, at least. Now I’m connecting with something new in my heart that is a cross between trembling and exciting. I find myself with an entirely new energy unfolding, and I’m totally ready for it.

As you may have guessed, what I’m talking about isn’t an actual gift under the tree. It is an experience that I’m glad to be having just before New Years. Some hold fast to the idea that what you are doing on New Years is indicative of what your year will be about. Last year was about a break-up. This year Unlimited Source provides all that I need to be fully living life to the utmost. I holding on to that belief with all my heart.

There is a service that the New Thought tradition of Christianity uses to conclude the year and begin a new year. It is called the Burning Bowl Ceremony. In this tradition, every one in the group writes down on a piece of paper a list of actions or behaviors he or she would like to obliterate from existence! Then you build a fire. One by one you drop your list into the fire and pray a prayer of letting go.

It’s also good to start a vision board for the New Year. You may consider beginning this now. Purchase a corkboard or a large piece of poster board. Take some old magazines and begin cutting out pictures that you would want to put in a wish book for yourself. You can also cut out words. If you can’t find the words you want, you can print them out in big, bold letters on your printer. Then begin to glue the pictures and words, like a collage, onto the board until it holds your unlimited vision for the New Year.

The next thing you should do is hang this vision board in a place in your house that is your prosperity corner. In Feng Shui (the art of decoration through spirituality) the prosperity corner is always to the far right corner as you enter a room. So, if your goal is to have a loving relationship and a business that is prospering, you should clearly have that expressed on your board and hanging in the appropriate area.

Every morning, make a point of connecting with the vision board in meditation or in prayer. You will be surprised how many of your dreams come true when you allow yourself to dream.

Nastia Liukin, the USA all-around gold medalist gymnast, from the 2008 Olympics, said that she hung a picture of herself holding her mother and father’s Olympic gold medals on her vision board. Every morning she would look at the board and imagine herself winning the Olympic Gold before she set out practice. Eventually, she won the gold!

Today, not two weeks from now, is the day you need to begin considering what your New Year will look like. If you need help sorting things out, you know where I am and what number to call. Namaste.

My dear friends of “Blog to Grow for Spirit,” I am so happy to announce that for this Holiday season I am offering two special editions of Inspirational Books: IN SEARCH OF A MORE AUTHENTIC YOU, Book 1 and Book 2. Each book has 100 readings from my spiritual and inspirational writings.

If you have someone you’ve been wanting to share my blog with, I’d recommend getting a copy for this special person this season. I am only offering this book in Kindle or PDF platform this season. But if you want to get it, print it out, and give it to someone you love, you are certainly welcome to do that.

The cost for each book is only $3.99.  You can’t beat that for a Christmas bargain. All you have to do is send me an email atbosebastian5@gmail.com and I will send you the book via email as an attachment. You can pay for the book by Paypal (bosebastian5@me.com), Credit Card [by providing info in the email or by phone (615) 400-2334], or by sending a check to:

Bo Sebastian

5001 Maywood Drive

Nashville, TN 37211

 

Also, for this season, please consider shopping at shop.bosebastian.com for mp3s, books, paintings, and gift certificates for any services I offer: hypnotherapy, private yoga, vocal lessons, and private vegetarian cooking classes.

 

I’ll be happy to send you a beautiful gift certificate or you can create one of your own. Again payment can be by Paypal (bosebastian5@me.com), Credit Card [by providing info in the email or by phone (615) 400-2334], or by sending a check to the above address.

 

Many thanks to you for supporting me and my work: To Grow For Spirit.

Bo Sebastian, CHT

 

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and LifeCoach, available for private sessions to Quit Smoking, Lose Weight with the new Lap Band-Hypnosis, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. Your connection to me blesses me in everyway possible. And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN atBosebastian5@gmail.com; or find me at www.bosebastian.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon, just by typing my name in the header.

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Blithely Written: Commensurately Read

Blithely Written; Commensurately Read

         I live life mostly organically—not so much with food as with thought and action. What I feel you can see from ten miles away on my face. What I know to be true, you can be sure I’ll act on 99% of the time. (I’m no saint.) But one thing is absolutely sure, when I sit at the computer to write this blog, and I’m not exactly sure what to write or am not fully passionate about it, the number of readers drops from around 31,000 about 40%. Yes, you are in a growing number of Bo’s blog readers. And keep sharing, because it obviously is working.

I don’t know if many of you know that what I did when I first came to Nashville was teach vocal lessons. I still have a few select people I teach. (Smile if you’re one of them.) I had been a vocal coach since I was 18. So I have been doing this for… let’s see 52 – 18 years old = 100 years.

One thing I stress with every singer I teach is that very few people are interested in whether or not you have a pretty voice. More people value being able to hear the passion in your heart. That is something to strive for. To do that, you have to be completely resigned to letting go of all the muscles restricting your voice from the chest to the neck, which is your fifth chakra.  (For people who don’t know about chakras, check out some links to other of my blogs about chakras.)

The fifth chakra is where you are able to communicate your truth. So, if this part of your body is tight (your throat), then you can’t say what you believe or feel. In singing, you can hear in a person’s cantor whether or not they are free there, because tightness causes flatness or sharpness in the timbre of the voice. It also causes a pinched sound, which doesn’t make us want to listen for more than a minute.

However, when someone sings from his/her gut, it goes right to our hearts. This kind of passionate singing makes for a great artist, whether it’s beautiful or raspy.

As for everyday life, tightness in the throat chakra can contribute to not being able to say how you feel or never speaking up for yourself. If this is you, you can help that problem with some simple voice lessons, even if you’re not a singer or ever plan to be. Freeing your voice IS freeing your passion.

Passion can be heard from the rooftops if you let your soul go there. I dream of the day that my life can be so full of passion that every move I make will cause the entire world to shift slightly toward peace and love and joy and happiness. Wouldn’t that be great?

Quantum Physicists know that every change we make in our own lives effects the entire world, perhaps minutely or maybe even on a grand scale. So, grand movements forward, mean a better future for everyone. Just think about it, if just one strong step forward with one person can effect an entire world, what can an entire nation of people stepping forward do to effect the world?

I think that happened after the election. When I watched President Obama’s and Gov. Romney’s speeches, both seemed to be on the same page: MOVE FORWARD—DON’T LET THIS ELECTION STOP YOU FROM YOUR GAME PLAN—WORK WITH EACH OTHER.  There was nothing more inspiring than hearing Pres. Obama say he was looking forward to getting together with Mitt Romney to hear his ideas. I thought that moment was conciliatory and a loving choice for the entire nation. These are the kinds of words we need to be hearing from our leaders.

And of course, I cried when President Obama mentioned that we have to be mindful of all people, race, gender or sexuality. That blew me away. I don’t think any president in history has been so bold. And his words rang from the hilltops and touched hearts of people who felt downtrodden and hurt and not heard ever, I’m absolutely sure.

I know in that moment, I felt the pulse of the earth change. If other countries were watching, as I suspect they were, they will rise to the challenge of treating all people fairly in their countries as well. It all starts with a seed of passion.

Passion is great! Let’s all dig deeper in our lives and try to find what really makes our hearts and minds rise to the occasion and sing to the pleasures of our souls!

 

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