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From the Other Side: Compassion #compassion #feelingenergy #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

Compassion comes in many packages. One of the greatest ways we can use our compassion is to imagine what another person feels, thinks, or why she is acting a specific way. This kind of compassion deflects our own need to fight back, retreat, or explain our opinions in the face of a seemingly negative attack or action.

As a life coach, often I will have an opinion about a client’s choice. I always have to ask myself if it is necessary for me to voice that opinion or for the client to come to the conclusion on his own, with some good advice.

I have realized that when I come down too hard on anyone with an opinion, I sound like I am dictating, not advising. No one ever feels good when they are treated as if they are wrong. Even children, want to feel as if we always have come to our own good conclusions.

So, the trick in dealing with your children, your spouse, or your best friend is to never stick your nose too deeply into their decisions before you are asked. And, even when you are asked, remember your words could come back to bite you in the butt. If, for instance, you help a friend leave a spouse, and that same person returns to the relationship. Every bad word you have ever said about the spouse is still out there in the universe waiting to come back at you.

Even our opinions about addiction and any bad behavior can come back to us, especially if a person who has been sober for 10 years and decides to start drinking again. That friend, though he or she has been your best buddy as a sober person, may decide that your friendship is dependent upon your ability to accept them as they are.

Am I saying that we should ALL keep our opinions to ourselves? Well…

How many times has voicing your opinions really changed another person’s point of view? There is a real difference between living your truth and ranting. Honestly, I’ve learned to keep my opinionated side out of life and stick to Truth. Live it! Share it! And you will never have to take back your words.

Today is not an easy spiritual lesson. Listen a little harder! Try to understand the reason a person says or does something. In so doing, should your response be one of total acceptance and love? Or, should you express your distaste and risk losing a close friendship?

I believe you will find this exercise interesting, as this is a balancing act with your own ego as well as a spiritual lesson in compassion.

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Having a Different Opinion

Many times in life we share an authentic thought or opinion with someone or on social media, and the immediate response is one of derision. Sometimes, as we try to share the most important decisions of our lives, we are met with despair and hate: for instance, coming out for any gay people is met with responses about going against the law of God, being wrong, and complete misunderstanding. Let’s face it, no one can really feel or see from our eyes what we see. Our perspective is unique and wonderful. So, to fight someone’s opinion is simply ridiculous, most times. I know, plenty of opinions, especially political and religious ones, try to override our rights as citizens. But each person, still, no matter how hateful their remarks, has a right to his or her feelings.

When and where to voice our opinions is the hard part of anyone’s life. We all want to be heard. We feel important and especially authentic when we shout from the mountaintop, unabashed, that which we learned and has become an important paradigm change. But, even the Christian bible says, “Don’t cast your pearls before the swine.” Your deepest, heartfelt feelings may get trampled and kicked.

As a writer of a blog and books, I’m subject to people commenting and readers leaving horrible ratings and reviews on places like Amazon. As for  my blog, I can monitor the comments before they reach the Internet. But on Facebook, I allow the comments to flow—good or bad, because I don’t mind healthy conversations there. However, if I see that someone has become too heated and biased, I will delete his or her comments and, I have been known to even block the person from the site. Healthy conversation and hateful comments are completely different on social media. We don’t air our opinions to change other people’s minds. Most people have made up their minds about what they believe before they ever comment. As a good friend says, “I’ve already made up my mind. Don’t confuse me with the facts!”

The important objective to glean from this essay is that everyone has a right to an opinion. In voicing our opinion, if you don’t want what you believe to be stomped on and argued about, share it with people you love. But, first, tell friend or loved one, ahead of time, that you aren’t sharing because you want to argue or discuss what you feel. You are sharing because your newfound ideas and thoughts are making a difference in your life. You simply wanted that friend to know.

Sharing intimate thoughts on the Internet, however, unless you write professionally, is not a safe place for anyone’s personal feelings, unless that person expects many people to analyze and dissect that which is personal and intimate.

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[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

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