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Is the Past Ever Your Friend?

As a child I found refuge in my bedroom closet, a magical place that led to an elevated door, a gateway to the scary attic, right above my bedroom. On the bottom row of the closet hung my tiny clothes. On the top row, my older brother Mark’s. I could sit below the fort that my pants made, keeping me from all of the mess outside that door. My youngest sister would often accompany there. We would play games by the ambient rays of my LiteBrite!

When I have dreams as an adult, I often find myself back in that closet, listening and viewing the past from the safe place of my childhood fortress. Sometimes the dreams are a mirror of what happened as a child. Other times, the entire family is moving. More often than not, the dreams are about moving and never getting to a destination. However, we are all on a moving truck and the furniture in the truck almost appears as a mobile home, as if we were living in the ever moving, never healed past.

Lately, my husband and I have been praying specifically about our dreams. We have asked that the angels or spirits involved in helping us find our way through the mess of the past would lead us OUT of the same patterns and dreams.

Two days after praying about a shift in the dreams, our dreams have both shifted to a present or a future modality. The past two nights my husband has been in most of my dreams, as they were very lucid. At one point we were traveling through my past in a car. However, we got to a road that I thought led somewhere specific, but it was a dead end. Immediately, I understood—even in my subconscious dreaming state—that the past was simply a dead end. It will never lead to anything but more past and more pain.

It’s time to end the drama of recapitulating the past to find answers and move the hell forward with life!

It’s not as if I haven’t come to this conclusion a million times. However, last night my subconscious actually understood, as well. Hallelujah!

My question, however, is: Can the past ever be your friend? Does the past ever share with you lessons you have learned? The answer is, of course. But do we have to hold on to the “good” past to keep the lessons learned? This is the real issue.

Once, I had a shaman lead me through an ancient ritual during an hypnosis session. I began as a child and walked down a long hallway of doors through all of the stages of my life. In my right hand was a basket. As I walked forward and continued getting older—moving toward a beautiful light in the distance—people appeared to me out from the doors who had made either a good or a negative impression on my life. Each of these people would place in my basket something that signified what he or she had done to impact my life.

Of course, by the time I was an adult, the basket became filled with objects, becoming so heavy that it took two hands to carry it down the hallway. Nearer to the light now, the people coming out of the doors carrying negative memories waned, as more and more beautiful, spiritual people would hand me feathers and angel’s wings, weighing nothing.

When I reached the light, an angel stood by the doorway. As she opened the door to paradise, I could see that there was a chasm between me and the heavenly plane. The angel said that I would have to run and leap as high as I could to get to the next plane of spiritual existence.

It became readily clear to me that I could never get to the next place with this very heavy basket in my hands. Yes, all the memories both good and bad were there. The basket was significant. However, if I didn’t put down all of the memories, I could never jump to the next level. Ultimately, I placed the basket filled with all of my memories, good and bad, and leaped into the arms of a loving presence.

What I learned was that bad memories are heavy and try to weigh you down with every step you move forward. Their purpose is to keep you in the past and fill your mind with enough about the past to keep you out of the present and the purpose of your life.

The good memories, even though they hold the love and beauty of peaceful time are no longer needed as well. Both serve the same purpose whenever you compare the past with living in the now. The example I think of is trying to take a picture of a moment on  a vacation that you want to remember. As you are organizing your camera and shooting the shot, you miss the moment that was happening to your right or left that was even more fantastic. Memories are meant to be called up for a moment to aid us in learning lessons. They are like looking through files for a receipt. Find it. Figure out the problem. Then, move on!

Both the good and bad past can hold you back from the now and from attaining the highest place in your spiritual consciousness!

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My Unhealthy Past Taught Me…

Today, I have been confronted with stories about my past. For example, someone wanted me to explain decisions I had made in an old relationship, reasons for exiting that relationship, and there were questions about post-break up and how to move on. I guess these questions are appropriate since my last blog was about putting away the past—completely.

With everything we put out into the universe,
we should expect the universe to bounce back a bit
and give you a healthy balance concerning
your view point and the your present Truth.

I thought it would be appropriate that I share what I learned since the last blog:

When you are confronted with stories about the past and questions that force you to put one hand back into the garbage can of your past, what kind of precautions should you take?

 

Talk about the past using the present to help you define it with the intention and Truth you embrace now—with no blame, no animosity, and certainly without regret!

The questions I was asked happened to be about one of the most tragic times in my life. My partner of 8 years had an affair with the partner before him, whom I was with for 7 years. The incident changed my life forever. Looking back at my life 12 years ago can only be described as watching a movie I had seen before, but waited 10 years to watch again.

When you are asked to unearth what is dead and gone, digging up the grave may be a difficult task if you covered the dead bodies with cement and buried it so deeply that it would take Cargo Shovels to unearth it. However, my past isn’t buried. What’s done is thrown away. However, what I learned from the past is written in my subconscious and easy to access at any moment. In fact, I even wrote a book about all of my relationship experiences that anyone may read called: Learning Alone.

Is it fun to reread this book about my past? Hell, no. Do I enjoy answering questions about it? Not always. Am I ashamed of my past? Absolutely not. Have I learned from my past? YOU BET!

The reason why I wrote the book was to resolve the past and make resolute decisions about my future. I didn’t want to relive any of the pain again. I wanted to see the large signs of problems and the tiny, almost-so-small ones that you have to wear bifocals to see them. I want to know all of it so well that I never… ever make the mistakes again.

For that reason, I can say that I didn’t fall prey to the many shadowy men I met in South Florida. I found someone who is my best friend, I can laugh with, play with, is my prayer partner, and spiritual equal. I can honestly say that because of my perspective of the past compared to my present Truth, I can chat about the past, take the story off of the bookshelf, read a few passages, and put it right back where it belongs—filed away.

The past doesn’t have to define you. But if you don’t resolve it and even write about what you learned, you do nothing but leave it in a garbage can that travels with you to every room you go.

What I neglected to write yesterday was this:

Never live from the past, but learn every lesson you can from it. If you have to write an essay about the lessons you learned and file it away for quick reference material, do it! You will be a better person for it.

Then throw the old point of view away, the hate, the animosity, and mostly the regret away forever! Amen.

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. For more information and individual pricing or as a guest speaker, give me a call: 954-253-6493.

SKYPE sessions are available. Click here for more information.* * *

 

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If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Your New Story, Your New Life” with a pathway to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website or on Amazon. Thanks!

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Sifting Through the Garbage to Find my Lost “?”

Have you ever found yourself searching everywhere for a lost item? The last place, however, you want to look is in the garbage. Why? Because you know in that garbage is the most infectious place in your home, the germs, the waste, the refuse, the dirt, the scum, and what you definitely don’t need anymore…

That garbage can is your past!

That’s right. That’s why you don’t want to look there. Because everything in it is waste. The past is no longer useful to you.

Okay, hold on. Not everything in my past should be in that garbage can, right? Wrong.

Everything that has already happened is keeping you from looking at what is happening right now. Everything. You can’t separate the good from the bad. If you are holding on to an old thought, bless your heart. But you will miss everything that is happening right now and especially the chance to be the light that you are meant to be NOW.

I get it that there are memories I want to hold on to. There are ways to do this without spending your entire day or even moments reliving them. It’s what most people are doing all over the world right now… Take a Photo of It!

I have an altar of sorts in my office. It holds sacred objects. But it also holds things like pictures of seeds I’ve sown in the universe. Places and people I want to bless with my thoughts. These are not wasted moments, because they hold intention. Intention is living in the now.

If something holds a vibration for you, in experience that good vibration you are living in the now. It’s still present, not past.

Even if a person passes away physically, they could be beckoning you from the ether. Is this living in the past? Only if you are mourning over it and not listening for the wisdom they could bring you.

Live now. Yesterday may have been the best day of your life. But, guess what? Tomorrow may be even better.

Expect it!

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. For more information and individual pricing or as a guest speaker, give me a call: 954-253-6493.

SKYPE sessions are available. Click here for more information.* * *

 

Go to Bo’s Personal Website

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Your New Story, Your New Life” with a pathway to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website or on Amazon. Thanks!

GO TO AMAZON

 

 

 

 

 

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