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Dinner with a PornStar? #judgment and prejudice #truth #countongod #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

I went to dinner last night with an old friend from Nashville. We were laughing and cutting up as we took a selfie for Facebook. We jokingly put that he was a porn star in the description. Surprisingly, most of my friends thought it was the truth, even though the rest of the description held the truth—“AND a flight specialist.” I actually had to go back and edit the picture to save face.

Really, friends? WWJD? If a porn star wanted to have dinner with you to talk, would you not treat him or her like a human being? Maybe s/he wanted to know about spiritual things or understand your take on meditation. Maybe a porn star isn’t so different than you and I.

This seemingly funny incident made me realize just how much we all compartmentalize and judge people before we even know them. My friend could not be less of a porn star. He is actually a very spiritual and compassionate, loving person. However, both of us like to have fun and cut up, which is a part of life that most people forget about.

We are meant to play like children of God in the playground of life, joyfully embracing all the good that Spirit has to give.

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Bullying and Porn—Connection?

A psychopath has no regard for the pain of others, who is only concerned about getting his/her own desires fulfilled. By what we accept and allow in our lives and on this earth, is all of humanity psychopathic? Where did this behavior originate.

Bullying is simply the ability to make one person feel stronger and more important than another by abusive words and actions. No one person can bully unless s/he has also experienced this in his/her own life. We only learn behaviors, we don’t invent them.

I believe pornography is a graphic example of how masculine dominance over women and each other produce the idea that to be effective sexually, we must exert either dominance or be willing to be dominated. Thus, the terms top and bottom come into significance. Bondage and other demeaning forms of sexuality only exhibit how extremely tainted the human mind can become when it combines sexual behavior with egocentric desires.

Over the years, I have had many clients who have been addicted to pornography. I have dealt with psychopathic behavior, child molesters, and men addicted to child porn, as well as the husband wanting to use porn to fill a gap in the emotional relationship. All of the above are issues that keep a person Avoidantly Attached.

You can’t trust a person who is capable of wanting to strangle you to satisfy him/herself sexual needs, so the only thing you do is attach on a physical level. You avoid the heart level and mellifluent love, and stick with what feels comfortable and will keep the sexually eschewed partner coming back for more, because your mind doesn’t understand and comprehend real secure attachment.

I think this recent outflow of bullying in pro sports and at schools and colleges is just another way this same kind of egocentric behavior is manifesting in society. We are doing well to bring it to the surface, shine a bright light on it, and begin to understand the deep workings of our old belief about strength and power.

Power vs. Force, a book written by David Hawkins, describes force as an energy that requires an equal and opposite reaction. Whereas, power is in itself a true model of resourceful energy, requiring no opposing force.

I like the idea as it pertains to our sports model and the masculine stereotype. If we begin to teach our minors about developing true power, instead of force with ideas from yoga and spirituality, we would resolve the need for anyone to take over and overthrow with excessive force and ego power.

We might also fix the problem we face with male dominant pornography that provides a “forceful” model for the male and doesn’t allow for tenderness and extreme intimacy. Maybe someday we will see companies producing pornography changing the paradigm of the past to encompass loving and tenderness during sex. So, those who go to porn for fantasy learn healthier behaviors. I know that’s asking a lot of the world, but one can only dream!

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A Year to CLEAR Challenge!

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Accessing the ability to change and finding yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call getting to the “observer mind.”

In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and body flow to a positive space for change.

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Internet Addiction

Internet Addiction

Internet addiction is one of the fastest growing addictions in history. Clearly, as a technical world we are spending more and more time on the computer, so it would make sense that we are using the computer to connect to the world in ways that healthy and unhealthy.

A few of the biggest addictions are porn, gambling, and sex hook-up sites. The Internet has become instant gratification for those who work too long, don’t want to spend time in bars or other places meeting people face to face, and want to have their fun and work all in the same place. It’s a very messy place of addiction.

You have alcoholism. You can definitely stay away from booze. You have drug addiction. You can leave the drugs and never return. You have cigarette and tobacco addiction. You never buy them again. But computers… we have to be on them constantly. There is a nagging pulse in the back of the addict’s brain that continually draws them back to the place of addiction over and over again.  And with the dawn of erasing cookies and history immediately, most people are safe from ever being caught.

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Here’s the catch. I’ll give you a couple examples. I know a man who was going out of town often for business. He was married with a couple kids. When he would go out of town he would hook-up from Craigslist. Apparently, he got risky and came home with HIV. His addiction was no longer a secret. And his marriage is no longer.

You have a woman who enjoys gambling secretly on the Internet. She does it when all the kids and husband go to sleep. Suddenly she is up to her ears in debt and can’t hide it anymore from the family. She’s caught.

You have a husband who can’t perform in bed any longer. His wife is beautiful and loving and caring. He has given her every excuse in the world, but now she is simply suspicious. She puts a spy cam on his computer and finds that he is visiting porn sites all night after she goes to bed. Now they are in counseling for his addiction.

Listen, addictions, only get worse. Most people think they can handle doing a little of something. But often the draw of the addiction can get to brain that is susceptible to addictive behavior. You may be one of those people. If you are, beware of the Internet.

If you already are in this trap, before you get caught, find some help. What happens is the brain links stimulation with whatever is in front of it. You keep putting gambling or hot babes from porn sites in front of you, you will not be able to unhook and look your partner in the eye when you are trying to make organic love. You will lose all the things you have set out to get in life. Is it worth it for some 2-dimentional reality?

I’ve worked with people for over 22 years with all forms of addiction. Internet is up there with cocaine and alcohol and food. It’s more likely to be in the category of food for me, because food is in that necessary functional situation. You have to have it. So, being around it causes triggers in the brain.

What is necessary is to exchange new thoughts and new patterning for the old thoughts and old patterning. To do this, you have to have a professionals help. Trust me on this. Not many people have the moxie to help themselves.

I hope this gets to the people it needs to today. I sense in my heart that there are some people out there struggling with this issue, and I’d love to be able to listen to your story. Feel free to email me personally. Bosebastian5@gmail.com.

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