Tag: Prejudice

When We Rise: Struggles Within

After watching the first episode of the television epic When_We_Rise on ABC, I reconsidered my own strength in the struggle within. Was I even a part of the fight against homophobia and the rise of women’s rights in the early 60s and 70s? I pressed through those times, living in NYC, as if the fight was already behind me. I never stood up and screamed from the rafters or a float or a podium that I was gay and deserved equality. Today, I have to ask myself why.

I know with certainty that my own inner struggle with religion and being gay was at the top of the list of reasons. At some points, when many of my friends were dying around me from AIDS-related diseases and no one from the government cared, I turned a blind eye to those painful times when a policeman could arrest a man or woman for being gay. I’m shaking my head now and really reconsidering how I could have been more effective as a human being, helping my gay brothers and sisters in their movement toward equality.

In my own memoirs about growing up gay in a homophobic America (“Learning Alone”) I write:

I am a skeleton of relationships with no flesh. If intelligence makes the man, why have I made the same mistakes for over twenty years concerning relationship, concerning God?

I looked at most of my life as an impending tsunami. I put up walls around myself for protection and let nothing in or out without two forms of identification, a lifeboat, and a safe exit.

Now, I wonder if life is more like a delicate equation, with all of its fundamental subtleties changing the very substance of who I am—moment by moment!

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Ultimately, when you don’t have your own inner struggles, anxieties, and physical health under control, it is an impossibility to fight for others in an effective way. I have spent the majority of my adult life looking back and making reparation from my broken past. However, one has to wonder if clearing our own consciousness is ever enough.

I walk away from these nostalgic thoughts feeling empty and helpless, even though I see a new world of opportunity and change around me—one I didn’t much participate in to fully enjoy the victories.

I’m getting married to a man next month because of the strong and unquenchable desire for change in millions of gay people around the globe. Do I actually deserve this right when I didn’t go to battle as they did? The most I ever did in the early days was scoff from the roadside at NYC Gay Pride as I watched the floats with half-naked men and drag queens waving flags and taking a strong stand. I thought, these people don’t represent me at all! I judged them as being flagrantly immoral and bawdy. My self-righteous contempt kept me from joining their political stand for the freedom to express as powerfully and as naked as they wanted.

When_we_rise from the depths of our own prejudices—from those people who are like us but different—we can begin to see that our inequality is as deep.

I can look at life from both sides now, because I have lived my life as a Pentecostal minister condemning gays and also have stood up in front of city government officials and testified about getting fired from a job for being gay. I remember both sides and wonder if both still exist somewhere within.

I’m not angry at myself. However, I’m a lot pissed off at the world that can’t see through my eyes. I want the gay antagonists of the world to be compassionate and empathetic enough to see the struggle that still exists today. Yet, I find myself beating my head against the wall when it comes to understanding how the right-winged side of the U.S. can be so undemocratic. Wikipedia describes democracy as having:

Four key elements: (a) A political system for choosing and replacing the government through free and fair elections; (b) The active participation of the people, as citizens, in politics and civic life; (c) Protection of the human rights of all citizens, and (d) A rule of law, in which the laws and procedures apply equally to all citizens.[3]

As understated as this all seems, democracy is rather simple in its premise. All anyone wants in this world is the right to live a life with equality, where the law protects all of us, not just the ones who act like us.

When we rise, if we rise from this imbalance, we shall rise to the place of no judgment at all—not for ourselves, not for others. This doesn’t mean we won’t stand up and fight when being stripped of our inalienable rights. No, not at all.

We will fight harder, because we have left behind our self-righteous baggage. We will fight for others, not just ourselves, because we are healed from the past. We will stand in the gap when a handicapped man or woman can’t stand up at all, because we recognize that we must give back without considering what we will take. We will rise, yes, we will rise and make a different world—a better world—a world where every man and woman, no matter the color, race, religion, or sexuality—all have equal rights.

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You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

 

 

 

 

 

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Dinner with a PornStar? #judgment and prejudice #truth #countongod #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

I went to dinner last night with an old friend from Nashville. We were laughing and cutting up as we took a selfie for Facebook. We jokingly put that he was a porn star in the description. Surprisingly, most of my friends thought it was the truth, even though the rest of the description held the truth—“AND a flight specialist.” I actually had to go back and edit the picture to save face.

Really, friends? WWJD? If a porn star wanted to have dinner with you to talk, would you not treat him or her like a human being? Maybe s/he wanted to know about spiritual things or understand your take on meditation. Maybe a porn star isn’t so different than you and I.

This seemingly funny incident made me realize just how much we all compartmentalize and judge people before we even know them. My friend could not be less of a porn star. He is actually a very spiritual and compassionate, loving person. However, both of us like to have fun and cut up, which is a part of life that most people forget about.

We are meant to play like children of God in the playground of life, joyfully embracing all the good that Spirit has to give.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?cropped-cropped-6009Color1001.jpg

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

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How Can a Flag Change the Mind of Society? #becomingconscious #whatstrending #psychology #spiritualliving #Charlestonmurders

In an argument on CNN yesterday between a news anchor and an old star and recent Georgian Congressman, Ben Jones, we heard two sides of the meaning of a flag. We know why the Governor of South Carolina wants to take down the flag at the state building. But, Jones gives his opposition to removing all Confederate flags: “It’s (the Confederate Flag) been used by racists, by horrible people such as this man in Charleston,” Jones said, referring to Dylann Roof, a white man charged in the shooting deaths of nine black church members at Emanuel AME Church last week. “You know, the Klan burns the Christian cross, and their flag is the American flag,” Jones said. “Different context.” Should we get rid of the Christian cross and the American flag, as well?

I listened with respect and wondered if Jones made a good point. People use the bible all the time to say that homosexuals don’t have the right to get legally married. Should we burn all the bibles, because it negatively impacts social rights? To what measure is removing the flag from the state building in South Carolina going to help change the minds of people whose minds are already made up to hate?

Well, I think that Gov. Nikki Haley made a good move to show that South Carolina considers itself an ally of the laws of the United States, as a whole. The measure of removing the flag has less to do with the flag’s meaning, than it does to create a unified field of consciousness within the state to remove prejudice.

Should we tell people to get rid of their flags in their own front yards? Absolutely not! I want to be able to fly any flag high and proud over my house, if I want, or mount my “Hillary Clinton for President” sign on the top of my car. We can’t take away human rights to propel our own sense of morality.

Of course, most of you get my point; otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading a blog that is mostly about spirituality. When we support something with our energy and our minds, we make change, not as much outwardly, but mostly cause the energy of hate to dissolve spiritually and universally, as well. So, as you think on these things, give some energy IN THOUGHT to the change you would love to see in the entire world around the idea of prejudice, in general.

See our world filled with love and compassion! See people’s minds changing from hateful to loving! In your meditative thoughts, turn the energy of the subjective mind field—that energy that is simply waiting for you to create something powerful—into vehicles that will create love and harmony!

 

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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