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As the Mother “As One of Your Servants-Part III” #addiction #prodigalson #forgiveness #whatstrending #hittingbottom #spiritualliving

Yesterday, we talked about the point of view of the eldest child in the story of the Prodigal Son. As a review, I told the story as a modern-day tale with the eldest child as a daughter, who stayed at home and worked for her wealthy, single mother at their burgeoning business; while the youngest, bisexual son ran off to squander his million on the world’s finest everything.

The question for today was: What would you be thinking if you were the mother of the long-lost youngest son?

After three years of not hearing from your child, whom you have given his inheritance early, you get a phone call from your head housekeeper. “Your son is home and safe!” The wealthy business owner has meetings scheduled for the rest of the day, she hasn’t eaten lunch because her morning was so busy, and her desk has more paperwork than she can handle. Still, she puts down the phone, asks her secretary to reschedule all of her meetings, and rushes home to greet her son. Why is she not angry?

In the story, as its recounted in the bible, the narrator’s point of view is “Third Person Perspective.” It is not the “Omniscient Perspective,” where the storyteller gets to know everything every character thinks. In the third person perspective, one character, who tells the story, only sees the actions of the other characters. So, we have a dilemma in the telling. We actually don’t know what the father thinks. We simply know his actions.

This gives us an opportunity to recognize a bit about spirit or God. By the telling of the story, we see that it doesn’t matter what the father thinks. The importance of the story is how he responds to the repentant child. He rejoices by giving him a party and welcoming him back with open arms. His words: “For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found” (Luke 15: 11-32).

Alcoholism runs rampant in my family, as does addiction. So, understanding the intricacies of feelings from all sides of the family unit has always been a great fascination. I was much like the eldest daughter in this story many times, when I saw parents coddle and indulge abusive children who were in the throws of addiction. But, as I have aged, watched, and taken it all, I can imagine completely how a parent would feel if her son was three years clean, repentant of his old ways, and wanted to return to her loving arms a new man. I would, also, celebrate.

I might now kill the fatted calf, but I would certainly be thankful to God. I might be extremely happy, but I would continue to follow the child’s growth and encourage counseling and meetings as he acclimated back into a normal life.

You see, the father in the story of the Prodigal son, metaphorically, is God. So, we are not meant to see into the mind of God, probably because we would anthropomorphize Spirit’s feelings. I like that we only see God’s forgiving actions, and, also that we are onlookers as God is willing to give us our inheritance whenever we ask for it, as the master does to his youngest son, without hesitation.

The eldest doesn’t get her share, because she never asks. She simply acts like a betrayed martyr, probably feelings loads of resentment. In general, I’d say that Source doesn’t reward a resentful mind, basically, because that mind is not bearing the fruit of the Spirit: compassion, love, prosperity, truth, and grace.

Our lives will always express what we think. So, the lessons we learn from the story are many. But, the most important lesson here, today, is that no matter what the parent (metaphorically Source or God) always wants to give us our wishes, and, also, rewards good decisions!

 

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Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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As the Eldest—“As One of Your Servants-Part II” #addiction #prodigalson #forgiveness #whatstrending #hittingbottom #spiritualliving

Yesterday, we talked about the story of the Prodigal son, but I told the story as a modern-day one with the eldest child as a daughter, who stayed at home and worked for her wealthy, single mother at their burgeoning business; while the youngest, bisexual son ran off to squander his million on the world’s finest everything. The daughter comes home, one evening, from working late, to find that her mother is having a huge party for her long-lost brother, who had returned after three years with absolutely no communication.

The question for today was: What would you be thinking if you were the daughter?

Self-righteousness sneaks up on us without our knowledge of it existing, which makes it even harder to spot. If I were the daughter, I would feel absolutely correct in being angry at her mother for celebrating her irresponsible brother’s return with a huge party. The correct response for the mother would be to chastise the son and keep him from lavishness. Right? After all, the daughter had been beside her mother, wiping her tears, when years had gone by with no signs of her brother even being alive. Now this?

So, the first question I have to ask myself, if I were the sister would be a compassionate one, one that most of us, at this point, would completely forget about: What does my mother feel? Do I know how it would feel to be a mother who had lost her son to addiction or death? If so, how would I react?

You see, the reason why most people become self-righteous is because they have put aside their own wants and desire and are secretly jealous of those who make their dreams come true, even at the expense of others. To be compassionate of her mother’s feelings, would balance her own anger at her brother, almost immediately.

The daughter has a right to feel angry, but not vengeful. She also has a spiritual need to ask herself the important question: What am I missing here, and how do I get my feelings out of the way to learn a spiritual lesson? When the sister is able to ask those questions, perhaps, she will understand her mother’s point of view. She, still, may not like what she has to learn, but she will have balance in her mind and not keep resentment in her heart.

I had an experience, long ago, when I was a Pentecostal minister living in New York at the age of twenty-three. I used to (I know it’s a stretch to believe this) preach against homosexuality on the streets. Yes, I was one of those people who didn’t understand everyone’s right to his own belief, and I walked in self-righteousness almost daily. So, I understand this predicament.

One day, an old friend, actually a high-school friend, came to visit me in New York in the midst of my self-righteousness. When we were 16-17 years old, we had our first homosexual affair together. I still loved him from the bottom of my heart, but resisted all of those feelings. At this point in my friend’s life, he was completely okay with his homosexual lifestyle, while I was still hiding behind my own self-righteous, religious behavior.

I, however, was able to ask the important question of Spirit and of myself: Why am I so angry at Jim?

When I realized that I was jealous of him for being okay with his lifestyle, I knew I had to change my own point of view about life and about religion. My jealousy was causing me to create a larger barrier between my self-righteous life and the people I wanted to minister to. It was in that moment, I decided to release my ministerial position to find myself and my own ideas of religion. To simply accept what others had taught me about God would never be the correct choice for me, personally. I had to discover my own relationship with Spirit organically. And, that I did.

Tomorrow, I would like to discuss the position of the mother in the story!

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Today’s featured book is “Finding Authentic You.” It’s a book birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll love the 365 daily readings that will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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“As One of Your Servants!” #addiction #prodigalson #forgiveness #whatstrending #hittingbottom #spiritualliving

By midlife, almost everyone has had the divine pleasure of having an addict somewhere in his/her life. It’s no fun—not at all! Addiction is one of the hardest struggles in life, actually, more for those who are around the addict, than the one struggling with the problem; especially, when is the parent of an addict.

I have a few addicts in my family and grew up with one, as well. So, unlearning how to be a codependent was my challenge in life. I, still, catch myself mixed up in someone else’s problems and have to step back. We can all learn a lesson about addiction from a simple story in the Christian bible. I’m going to tell the story as if it were happening today:

The wealthy owner of a large manufacturing company has two children, a daughter and a son. Her husband died, so the mother has many servants helping with the children, who are now older teenagers and able to do many things on their own, including help out with the housework and tend to some of the work at the factory. The eldest of the two children decides she wants to follow in her mother’s footsteps and asks for a position at the company, which she does with great care and expertise.

The younger of the two children, with a little investigative work, discovers that he has a trust fund and the funds have become available to him at the age of eighteen for one million dollars. He tells his mother that, instead of working for the company, I want to take my inheritance and go see the world. Without any argument, the son leaves. For three years he doesn’t contact his mother or his sister. They don’t even know if he is alive.

The youngest son uses all of his money traveling and drinking and buying extravagant gifts for men and women, because he wanted to indulge in every part of life. He ends up depleting his entire inheritance at the end of two years and finds himself in South Africa having no money to eat. He steals a piece of fruit and ends up in jail, where he has to clean pigpens for one entire year. The food he eats there is what the jailer gives to feed the pigs.

Everyday the younger son finds himself dreaming about home. But, he can’t imagine his mother forgiving him for wasting a million dollars. He thinks, even the servants at my mother’s home have more than I do. I will go back to her and tell her I will work as a servant for her, because I don’t deserve to be her son.

So, after he pays his dues and gets out of jail, he works very hard to get a job on a freight ship where he can return home. He doesn’t even have enough money to get from the seaport to his home, so he hitchhikes. When a strange car pulls up in front of his mother’s mansion, the servants become suspicious. They all grab their guns and go to the front door, waiting for the unexpected visitor.

When the servants discover it is the youngest child, now bearded and with long, dirty hair, they embrace him and tend to his every needs. The head servant immediately calls the mother, who rushes home to see her lost son, whom, at this point, she thought was dead. The mother is so happy to see her son that she invites all of her son’s old friends and her own relatives to the house for a party that evening, sparing no expense.

When the elder of the two children comes home from a hard day of work at the factory, the party has already commenced. She asks one of the servants why the mother is throwing a party. The servant responds, “Your brother has come home!”

What I want you do today, is think about two things: 1). What would you do if you were the sister and how would you feel about your brother’s return? 2). What would you do if you were the mother? You are also welcome to respond on my blog site or on Facebook, if you like.

Tomorrow, I’ll discuss both.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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