Once, while in my forties, I dated a 19-year-old boy to experience what it would feel like to be young again. After a few weeks of bumps and bruises from doing things I simply would have never done without someone 20 years younger goading me, I finally, learned my lesson and let go of the relationship. Two weeks after, that same teenager stole his best friend’s car, and I never heard from him again.
Wikihow.com says there are 6 steps to getting out of your comfort zone:
- Make a fool of yourself;
- Know that the worst thing that could happen when you try something new is that you might fail;
- Face your fears;
- Become comfortable with taking risks;
- Most of our greatest lessons are learned by either failing or taking risks; and
- Enjoy the unknown.
I think I may have accomplished all six steps with one month of dating Harry!
Once, I opened my heart to date again after a long stint of fear about getting hurt. (Yes, most of everyone’s hardest lessons are firmly grounded in relationship.) My goal was to forget about the future and simply feel the present without any fear. I felt as if I was a teenager again, experiencing love for the first time. The result, three months later, when the guy decided that he wanted to see other people, was pain that I also hadn’t experienced since my twenties.
Learning lessons takes leaping into the present with all of your body and mind, without regard for the result. However, most often, the end result is painful. At least, in my experience it has been.
Would I change one step that I took for the valuable lessons I had learned? One thing I know for sure about the last dating experience is that I have the capacity to love grandly, which I really didn’t think was in my heart. When the right person comes along, I’ll know—as I take my time getting to know him—that I have within me the tools to commit, cherish, and love greater than I ever had before.
I believe we can use the tools of Getting Out of Our Comfort Zone in all areas of our lives. In business, my risk of moving to a new city, changing businesses, and starting over to pursue my passions has been like living on the precipice of the highest mountain. Though the view is amazing, sometimes fear and trepidation happen when it rains and the wind blows a little too fiercely. Yet, I wouldn’t change one thing about the present. I know what it feels like to live in the precious NOW everyday.
For some who live in fear and anxiety daily, living life in an unchanging world can bring a “sense” of security. But, no one is really safe from an ever-changing world. Change is all around us. The only thing that doesn’t change is change itself. So, you might as well climb out on a limb today and try something new you’ve always wanted to do. Time is a passin’, my friend!
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