If memory serves me, I was about 10 when I remember the first riot in Beaver Falls, PA. My teenage brother came home bloodied and explained with racially charged language that the African Americans had started a protest. He and his buddies were going to end it.
I thought, Why would people want to start a big fight while the world was already at war? Was a war going to break out in my back yard?
I was a smart young man, straight A’s in school, but I had a lot of struggle around me, war and fighting. Not only was the country in the middle of Vietnam and friends and family being drafted, but the internal struggle of my own family was far from peaceful.
Last evening as my husband and I were sharing, I had a PTSD moment. I remembered my father taking me in to his bedroom at about 12 years old, pulling down his underwear, and asking me to rub his naked ass with lotion. The memory made me wince.
I couldn’t continue to talk about it with my husband without wanting to vomit. I hadn’t remembered the moment in a long time. I don’t believe my father was a pedophile. He was, however, too cheap to hire a massage therapist, his ass hurt, and he needed someone to rub it.
He knew better than to ask one of my four sisters, so I was the one he chose. Of course, he had no idea the mark he left on me from the 30 minutes of the most discomfort I think I felt throughout my childhood, and that’s compared to watching my brother being bloodied by the same father countless times with a hard fist and a gold, college ring the size of robin’s egg.
I don’t speak about this to make anyone feel bad for me. I share because the people who have been abused as children for whatever reason need to talk about their past to take away the bad stigma, to release us from the blame we had often placed upon ourselves.
In my many years as a Life Coach, I have discovered that most of us have a story, a terrifying story that we have never shared, one that not only embarrasses us but one that is locked so far in our subconscious mind that we feel it may cause a myriad of other bad moments to flow out if we ever dare open that door. I have heard those stories and wept with my clients. I didn’t weep because I was sad at the event itself. Most of the events were small compared to the grand abuse I’ve seen. I cried because of the impact and the fear they kept inside for so many years.
As I see now, releasing pain through speaking candidly about it is better than holding it in—always.
When I decided to write my memoirs, it began as an exercise to release the past. Now, I just want to share the story, as I know those who have read it were deeply touched and healed from many deep scars. (It’s free this week on Kindle, if you are a member of Kindle Unlimited.)
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