Tag: religion vs. spirituality

The Search for God #spiritualgrowth #Scienceofmind #psychology #spiritualadvice

Even in our worst days of confusion, even when we compartmentalize our feelings in the deepest places of our heart, even when we go on vacation from life and thinking; somewhere in the depth of our understanding, we always search for the meaning of life. Within that meaning holds the ultimate question: What or Who is God?

Even people who are avowed Atheists have thought about this question; otherwise, they could not have come to a realization that God does not exist. So, let us just say that almost everyone is born with a homing device within that searches for this ultimate question.

As children, we have no shape or form to our thoughts about God until someone steps in and forms one for us. So, what of children who are left with religion and develop their own sense of truth without family or society painting us a clear picture of God?

A study conducted by the University of Chicago has found that children raised in non-religious households are kinder and more altruistic than those raised with religion. The study that was published in the journal Current Biology looked at 1170 children between the ages of 5 and 12 years in six countries (Canada, China, Jordan, Turkey, USA, and South Africa) and examined “the religiousness of their household, and parent-reported child empathy and sensitivity to justice.” The study found that “family religious identification decreases children’s altruistic (unselfish) behaviors” and “children from religious households are harsher in their punitive tendencies.” In other words, children raised in the absence of religion are more giving and generous, as the study states:

Across all countries, parents in religious households reported that their children expressed more empathy and sensitivity for justice in everyday life than nonreligious parents. However, religiousness was inversely predictive of children’s altruism and positively correlated with their punitive tendencies…

Our findings contradict the commonsense and popular assumption that children from religious households are more altruistic and kind toward others. In our study, kids from atheist and non-religious families were, in fact, more generous,” said Prof. Jean Decety who led the study. (Patheos.com, 2015)

This study does not challenge my belief in God. It challenges my belief in religion. I have come to see a great chasm between true Spirituality and Religion. Those of us who consider ourselves “spiritual” are moving farther and farther away from those who say they are religious, who tend to be moving closer to the Right-Winged beliefs of a Moral and Judgmental God with punitive attributes.

I remember the first time I said to myself, “I don’t want to believe in a God like that of these religious fanatics!” I sat waiting for a moment in the silence, wondering if I would get hit by lightning. Well, I am still here to write this Blog, so I must have found a sense of God that won’t strike me down for considering a believe other than what religion has taught me.

I’m not sure any of us will find God or will be able to define God, because by the definition: God is all things, everywhere. So, to define Spirit as good or bad, beautiful or ugly, fat or skinny, we would be completely remiss. We may, however, begin by examining our own self to view a reflection of God that may tell us more about Spirit than we have ever considered.

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What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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In the Arms of Safety #spiritualadvice #prayer #meditation #depression #divorce #lettinggo

I facilitate a Gay Spiritual Warriors group in Wilton Manors. The group is an offshoot of a book I wrote called “Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior,” about being disenfranchised from church and having to find a way to recreate one’s own sense of spirituality. Since December of 2014, over 150 men have stepped up to the plate to call themselves Spiritual Warriors.

We meet in a safe place, sans religion and very much spiritual, called The Center of Spiritual Living in Fort Lauderdale. This is a branch of New Thought churches, which bears it name because of its belief that “the realm of Divine Mind, called consciousness, must first change, before we see effects in our external world.”

This is not to be confused with New Age, which is more of a broad brushstroke, characterized by alternative approaches to traditional Western culture, with an interest in spirituality, mysticism, holism, and environmentalism. And, just to be clear, this is not Scientology or any brand of it.

In our discussion at the Warriors Meeting, we found ourselves reaching into a deep metaphysical pocket about feeling safe when we prayed, especially in community. I hadn’t realized it, until a few years ago, but judgment in my past caused a tremendous amount of fear around religion and churches, in general.

To prove my point, I was at a local restaurant celebrating a birthday with ten friends. As we waited for our table, I saw an old friend whom I had met at a Pentecostal church. (I used to be a Pentecostal preacher! Yes, I know… it’s a stretch.) As the story goes, I introduced her to my male partner, Michael, who excused himself to go to the restroom. The moment Michael left the conversation, my “friend” turned to me and said very abruptly and without a beat: “I have to tell you, Bo, that if you continue in this sin of homosexuality, you will go to hell!” Yes, in the restaurant, holding a martini, glistening with an extra shot of goldschlager, she began to quote the Bible, or her narrow-minded understanding of certain scriptures.

From that day, I began to distrust anyone who called him/herself a Christian as soon as that word popped up, even though, I knew many lovely Christians who would never think to say something that awful. I have been cornered with this same remark about ten times in my life, which has left serious scars on my soul concerning religion—not spirituality. However, sometimes in our own prayer life, a blurry line exists between the two ideas. This deliniation between spirituality and religion is the reason I wrote Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warriors and now go to a church that embraces me completely, without judgment.

To even begin on a course of spirituality, you must feel safe! In my estimation, God never judges anyone, but only leads us to a place more loving, more compassionate, and more authentic, every day. A great many new thought believers use a version of meditation to center themselves and gain spiritual insights and balance in their daily lives. But, even in this very private space, as we discussed, one must feel entirely safe and transparent.

Being filled with insight, love, and compassion takes emptying of an old belief, releasing the fear completely. You can’t fill a glass that is already full. Nor can you fill a mind with light when it is already overflowing with stress, fear, anxiety, and judgment.

Today, search your heart to see if you feel judged in anyway in your spiritual community. If you do, you may be building a barrier to spiritual enlightenment, especially in the deepest communication between your soul and Divine Mind.

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Today’s featured book is “Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior.” It’s a book birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll love the 365 daily readings that will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Angry at Religion or Angry at God? #religiousright #religion

I have a few good friends whom I’m afraid to say the word God in front of because they have been so broken by the paradox of religion and self-righteous, political behavior, that they really can’t seem to delineate a spiritual experience from church ideation! For those and, if you know someone in this circumstance, this blog may be for you!

Auspicious Breath
When you arrive in this world, the umbilical cord gets cut, and the human baby takes the first breath of life. This breath begins to animate and move the child without the need of its mother’s life source. It becomes individuated and autonomously human.

Conversely, when one gets to the end of life, the last event is when the breath empties from the body as a final exhale. The dead body lies limp and emptied of animation. If any of you have ever witnessed someone’s last breath, the paradox of life and the breath becomes so clear during those precious moments.

So, what about the breath is so auspicious and magical that it can give life and take it away in seconds? In my estimation, the paradox of spirituality is represented here in the process of the breath and in the science of the human body.

I look at the body as a brand new computer with software, but no programming or information attached. As soon as the breath of life enters the body is the time when the programming begins. The first smiles, the first hugs, the first kisses—or the first cries with no answer, the first hunger with no food is what begins to create neural pathways in the brain that will function as internal memory and triggers throughout the entire pathway of human life.

So, the process of making sense of how you react and your responses to typical behavior can likely be vested in your initial attachment to human life—through no fault of your own has been etched into your mainframe. When I look at life like this, I can’t help but to see that I have an observer self, something that controls my breath, my behavior, and my thoughts that can override what has been processed as data in my brain and humanness. In this observer side, I begin to recognize that I have a higher state of mind that is not just my physical response unit or computer generated impulses.

When I spend time manifesting and staying in this observer mind, such as in yoga, meditation, or quiet walks, I get to know this higher Me. I notice immediately, like an observer standing atop a bridge, watching the fish swim upstream, that I am no longer my thoughts, like the fish swimming beneath, but more the observer of the entire flow of life. This very likely could be like the fish swimming upstream and against the natural course of energy.

I have always felt like a foreigner in this body, someone who can’t seem to make sense of humans and their behavior. This is what brought me to my belief about spirituality. If you want to try and discover the difference between spirituality and church, you may just want to look between your own ears. Ask yourself a few pertinent questions starting with: Who is questioning my own behavior or thoughts?

For many years I wouldn’t put up a Christmas tree or color eggs at Easter, because my dad was a perfectionist who made the holidays intolerable. Four years ago, I decided to put up a tree and create my own ritual around Christmas, much like the many years ago I decided to release my old paradigm of a judgmental God and religion for the pure state of spiritual awareness. In so doing, I was able to realize that even spirituality and church can be recreated according to our own beliefs, not the past. If you try this, you may discover a part you that has yearned to break free and fly into the sky, like a butterfly breaking through the hard crust of a cocoon waiting for its wings to dry.
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