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As the Eldest—“As One of Your Servants-Part II” #addiction #prodigalson #forgiveness #whatstrending #hittingbottom #spiritualliving

Yesterday, we talked about the story of the Prodigal son, but I told the story as a modern-day one with the eldest child as a daughter, who stayed at home and worked for her wealthy, single mother at their burgeoning business; while the youngest, bisexual son ran off to squander his million on the world’s finest everything. The daughter comes home, one evening, from working late, to find that her mother is having a huge party for her long-lost brother, who had returned after three years with absolutely no communication.

The question for today was: What would you be thinking if you were the daughter?

Self-righteousness sneaks up on us without our knowledge of it existing, which makes it even harder to spot. If I were the daughter, I would feel absolutely correct in being angry at her mother for celebrating her irresponsible brother’s return with a huge party. The correct response for the mother would be to chastise the son and keep him from lavishness. Right? After all, the daughter had been beside her mother, wiping her tears, when years had gone by with no signs of her brother even being alive. Now this?

So, the first question I have to ask myself, if I were the sister would be a compassionate one, one that most of us, at this point, would completely forget about: What does my mother feel? Do I know how it would feel to be a mother who had lost her son to addiction or death? If so, how would I react?

You see, the reason why most people become self-righteous is because they have put aside their own wants and desire and are secretly jealous of those who make their dreams come true, even at the expense of others. To be compassionate of her mother’s feelings, would balance her own anger at her brother, almost immediately.

The daughter has a right to feel angry, but not vengeful. She also has a spiritual need to ask herself the important question: What am I missing here, and how do I get my feelings out of the way to learn a spiritual lesson? When the sister is able to ask those questions, perhaps, she will understand her mother’s point of view. She, still, may not like what she has to learn, but she will have balance in her mind and not keep resentment in her heart.

I had an experience, long ago, when I was a Pentecostal minister living in New York at the age of twenty-three. I used to (I know it’s a stretch to believe this) preach against homosexuality on the streets. Yes, I was one of those people who didn’t understand everyone’s right to his own belief, and I walked in self-righteousness almost daily. So, I understand this predicament.

One day, an old friend, actually a high-school friend, came to visit me in New York in the midst of my self-righteousness. When we were 16-17 years old, we had our first homosexual affair together. I still loved him from the bottom of my heart, but resisted all of those feelings. At this point in my friend’s life, he was completely okay with his homosexual lifestyle, while I was still hiding behind my own self-righteous, religious behavior.

I, however, was able to ask the important question of Spirit and of myself: Why am I so angry at Jim?

When I realized that I was jealous of him for being okay with his lifestyle, I knew I had to change my own point of view about life and about religion. My jealousy was causing me to create a larger barrier between my self-righteous life and the people I wanted to minister to. It was in that moment, I decided to release my ministerial position to find myself and my own ideas of religion. To simply accept what others had taught me about God would never be the correct choice for me, personally. I had to discover my own relationship with Spirit organically. And, that I did.

Tomorrow, I would like to discuss the position of the mother in the story!

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Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Blame Is Lame! 3 Steps to Take Back Your Power #wholenewyou #relationshipadvice #blame #breakups #whatstrending

Most of us have spent our entire life avoiding our own hurt and discomfort, blaming others. If you think hard enough, you’ll find someone responsible for the bad things in your life. I certainly have played the blame card far too often. Today, is a new day, though. Blame is just lame. It’s unhealthy for you and certainly doesn’t serve the world in any positive way. I seriously doubt it has affected the person you are blaming one iota. So, here are three wonderful ways to let go of your resentments forever.

  1. Take responsibility for everything in your life right now! See how it feels to say, “Yes, this happened to me. But, life just happens—always.” I’m not responsible for the rain and the thunder, but I certainly don’t blame the sky. Today, I take back my power!
  2. Write down each situation in your life when you have used blame as an excuse. Find a way that each situation has forced you to grow and become stronger.
  3. This is probably the hardest step: Begin to thank the person and God for being in your life for that time period.

When I look at my life and see the people who have caused me the most pain, I also see the biggest times of growth. This is the way I like to look at life:

All of our spirits set out to learn specific lessons in this lifetime. We all got together before we entered into our human bodies and decided which part we would play in each other’s lives. The spirits that were the closest to us, loved us the most, were the ones who made the biggest sacrifices. They played the hardest roles in our lives to teach us our biggest lessons. So, now I see people who have hurt me—spiritually—as the ones who have the deepest spiritual connection to my growth here on earth.

This may sound like a fairytale. But, it works for me. Let’s face it, if you want to take your power back, you must always find a way to make life work for you, not against you. Everything is working together for the good! The foundation of life is love. If this is true, then we must act like it. These words alone will change a blaming heart into one that loves!

I want that for all of us!

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Today’s featured book is my Gluten-Free cookbook. It’s a book birthed from years of helping people lose weight and also my own arthritic problem. I guarantee you that going gluten free will change your health, your mental acuity, and release muscle pain. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Anticipation of Change #Change #releasingthepast #resentment

I have been on the precipice of change for almost a month now. Every day, I have to pray to God that I contain my anxiousness enough to live in the present and to continue to hold on to the premise that “expectations are prepackaged resentments.”

I remember a time in life when I had $500 in the bank, was 21 years old, and living in Beaver Falls, Pennsylvania with my mother, sister, and her 1-year-old son. I received a phone call from a director friend (who has recently passed away of cancer) in NYC asking if I wanted to sublet his apartment for the summer. He would charge me $250 a month, which was amazingly cheap, if I would just take care of a few things for him while he was away at summer stock. He needed an answer the next day, which would mean I would be on a bus headed for a city I had only visited once and was too overwhelmed to even consume the vastness of its danger, magnificence, and opportunity. However, I had been dreaming of New York since I was young. So, without hesitation, I said yes.

I was on a bus to NYC the next week with only two suitcases holding everything I would need to audition, live, and survive. I had no prospects of a job, but I knew I could do just about anything, if it would mean surging toward my dream. So, in my heart, I had no qualms about finding that one perfect job that solved my financial problem of having the money for the rent the next month, classes, and food.

I had a college roommate, who, also, has since died of diseases related HIV Disease, who worked as a waiter in a great restaurant. He introduced me to the owner. She was Italian and liked me, immediately. I began to trail Rick the next day and enjoyed 2 years of working at The Fives, which I believe still exists. Life seemed to flow like water from a fountain. I even got my Actor’s Equity card in the first month I was there, which is unheard of. I had the fire in my loins that it took to make effective change and a dream that had carried with it no shadows of despair.

Today, I’m older and have had much loss and have expected way too much of life. However, I realize that the power, the dream, and the recognition that Life is on my side, even when I believe it isn’t, remains with me, just as it did when I was twenty-one. You see, even my partner leaving, my best friend moving to Thailand, and my mother having a blocked carotid artery all in the same week was a shove toward the future that I needed to make this “Encore Career” move.

I feel fortunate to be in this moment, because life is surging through my veins again like a vital energy I haven’t felt in years. I have a new relationship that looks amazingly promising, a new publishing company I began a month ago, with 2o of my books, healing Mp3s, and a yoga video. My boss at the YMCA has offered to introduce me to 3 of the supervisors at neighboring Y’s in south Florida to teach yoga. And some of my current coaching clients are going to stay with me on Face Time.

The only thing that stands in my way is my own anxious thoughts about what to expect from the next moment. I am currently using my down time to meditate to extract these unrealistic beliefs that life should be in my timing, not God’s. I believe this with all my heart and I pray to release expectation, which has no spiritual, nutritional value. These are the only two hindrances that can keep anyone from essential and mortal change.

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Finding Authentic You is my brand and is also aself-help guide, which I wrote, with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

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