Seeing the World in Black and White #badweather #snow

The weather, lately, has been snowy in the North and bleak and rainy in the Deep South, where the sun is usually always shining. When I went out to walk Coco this morning, everything—the beautiful palm trees, the grass, the sky, even the swimming pool—looked as if it had been changed with that magic edit button that turns a photograph to black and white or antique. Life looked more like a picture of lifelessness than did vibrant.

I have to be careful not to allow the tenor of the day to affect my consciousness. I’ve always been one of those people who seemed to be connected to the weather in ways where I could even feel if it was going to rain in my bones. Cloudy weather made me feel SAD. However, most times, this feeling would overwhelm me and cause me to feel sullen and want to stay in bed longer and just put the covers over my head.

I don’t want to be affected by this Seasonal Disorder anymore. Do I actually have a choice? Well, you can be a part of this little experiment with me or just be an observer. Today, I’m making a point to climb out of my old paradigm and experience this rainy day in a new and vibrant mental way, not dependent upon what it appears to be or how my body feels.

One important aspect of changing behavior is to find routine. So, even though I wanted to stay in my meditation for a longer time, because I could hear the rain outside, I woke up when I heard the ending bell of my Insight Timer (this is an App for people who meditate). I walked the dog without an umbrella, which woke me up and helped me feel the day, instead of avoid it.

When I came back to my home, I made coffee (a stimulant) and ate some plain yogurt. Now I’m writing this blog, trying to plan a day that won’t be hindered by the rain or the bad weather. I have a lunch planned at 11:30 a.m. and an audition for an agency at 1:00 p.m., then I’m supposed to help out at the church from 2-5:00 p.m. I couldn’t have purposely planned this day better. All of these activities don’t give me a chance to wallow in this seemingly sullen day and want to nap and hull up on the couch, which was my normal tendency.

I realize that my day and a 40-hour-a-week job looks much different, so most of you don’t have a choice whether to get up and go to work or sleep. But, you do have a choice in how you face a bleak day. You might say as I did, “The rain or snow is a gift from Spirit. It waters the land. It’s beautiful and perfect just as it is!” When I affirm that the NOW is okay just the way it is, I purposely immerse myself in the moment, not avoiding it at all.

If right NOW is the only moment we have, why should we waste a day moaning about weather? Right? This day can be about reconnecting with people you need to call. You could do paper work or taxes you’ve been avoiding. A snow day may be the perfect excuse to get that one task done that you’ve been avoiding for six months.

Sometimes the nostalgia of a black and white movie is exactly what you need to feed your soul with the joy of the past. We always have a choice to turn a dull and dreary day into a colorful and vibrant one.


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10 Minutes of Laughter

You’ve heard that laughter is the best medicine, but did you know that one hardy laugh can be just as effective as a pain medication, sustaining pain relief for almost two hours? Of course, this is hard to prove medically, but many people have reported total healing has occurred when watching a series of funny movies and programs and staying positive and out of a depressive state.

This, of course, doesn’t work when you have had your stomach muscles cut, such as with surgeries such as a Caesarean birth and hernia surgeries. In these cases, laughing actually exacerbates healing. When I began recovering from my hernia surgery, I actually had to send my mother home, because she kept trying to make me laugh, which was providing more pain than comfort.

After a few days I invited her back as laughter became a great relief and healing factor. If you go to the Internet for studies about how happiness and positive living provides the necessary environment for a healthy body, you’ll find a myriad of advice and stories of miraculous recovery.

In my own life, I can tell you that the healthier I feel mentally, the better my body feels, almost inevitably. I notice that during days of beautiful sunlight and clear days that my body also feels better and healthier. On the contrary, my sensitivity to the weather makes me have more challenging days when it rains or is considerably overcast. This illness is called SADS (Seasonal Affective Disorder Syndrome). Plenty of my friends have the same reaction to weather as I do, as do many of my Sensory Defensive Clients.

Sensory Defensiveness—the feeling of being overloaded by light, sound, and touch is a difficult disease to shake, because you are affected by people and environment that you can’t change almost every day. For instance, I am waiting for my friend Sharon to have eye surgery. The waiting area has overhead lighting that is annoying and causing a migraine. I had to go to my car for a pair of sunglasses to keep from getting a headache. Even now, I’m having to rest my eyes periodically to keep that feeling of an angry claw clamping down on my head from happening.

Other ways to help SADS and Sensory Defensiveness is to do actions that change the neural pathways firing in the brain or, at least, slow them down. You can wear a weighted vest or ankle weights. This has proven to be one of the best solutions for me. I know it looks a little odd for the weighted vest, but I can usually find a pair of pants that will cover ankle weights, if I have to be in a place such as a bar, theater or department store, where the environment is often frenetic and challenging for me.

Of course, if your problem is bright light, carry a pair of wrap-around sunglasses with you at all times. I’m thanking God right now for the sunglasses I’m wearing now. The headache is subsiding slowly, especially since I am doing a few yoga stretches to my neck and shoulders intermittently as I finish this blog.

Yoga is also a great way to get to know your body. In theory, the yoga movement practice was developed to experience every part of the human anatomy. This experience is actually for a different reason than you may think. The asana or movement portion of yoga was actually practiced to discover every part of God in you. As the scriptures say “that we are made in the image of God,” the yogis believed that discovering God could be helped by challenging the breath of life by creating different breath exercises. Each exercise helps the mind to control that body and the breath, which, in turn, helps you discover more of God.

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