Tag: secret of happiness

Like a Dog Returning to His Vomit

hLike a Dog Returning to His Vomit

There is no stronger picture a bible scripture can bring to mind than “As a dog goes back to its vomit, [so] a fool repeats his stupidity.” Proverbs 26:11.

It’s an easy scripture to recall once you’ve heard it. I guarantee it will stick in your craw for a long time, if you really imagine it.  Next time you decide to go back to an old fling or an old habit, just think—VOMIT!

It stops me every time.

Well, I’d like to think it stopped me every time. The truth is we all go back to our old habits once in a while even though we know that the habit will probably prove to us, once again, that we had made the correct decision the first time we left. You have got to wonder about humans and our desire to make wrong decisions over and over again. Isn’t that the definition of insanity?

Many people come to me because they can’t stop thinking of a lover or partner who is no longer in his/her life. I ask the reason. Usually it is something awful like, he hit me, or she couldn’t keep her pants up, or he was emotionally unavailable. But yet, this person can’t seem to stop loving the emotionally unavailable, abuser and adulterer. I literally have to do a mass brain clean up on them to get their minds to stop going back to what wounded them.

A hypnotist really can’t stop you from remembering somebody. But a good one can keep you remembering the reason why that person isn’t in your life. The problem is with the human mind is that we only want to remember the good times. The bad times we like to erase rather quickly.

Would a mother honestly want to give birth more than once if she actually remembered the pain of childbirth? Maybe not. Could we get through life if we remembered all of the painful things in our lives as if they just happened?

I don’t think so. I think we are hardwired to forget bad and remember good. And this is a good thing for all of us.

But what you have to do is give yourself a trigger to remember the bad thing that happened with an old boyfriend or lover or work situation…

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Dust in the Wind

Dust in the Wind

 

One of the sayings that changed my life forever is from a book called  “What Happy People Know,” by Dr. Dan Baker. He quotes one of his dying patients who had struggling through a bout of cancer only to find another small growth: She says about the meaning of life:

 

“Every moment that’s ever been, or ever will be, is gone the instant it’s begun. So life is loss.  And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

Notice she doesn’t say, “But the secret of happiness…”

She says, “And the secret of happiness is…”

 

And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

The truth is we don’t know what today or tomorrow or even the next moment will bring to our lives. We don’t know if it will bring something wonderful or something tragic. But the secret to happiness is to learn to love the moment that you are in, more than the loss of it, whether good or bad.

 

This concept completely changed my way of thinking. I don’t get up in the morning thinking that I have to change the world. I get up in the morning knowing that every moment I am conscious of the present, I am changing the world because I am conscious.

 

Can you grasp the concept? It’s huge.

 

The songwriter wrote: “All we are is dust in the wind. Same old song. Just a drop of water in an endless sea. All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see. Dust in the wind. All we are is dust in the wind.”

 

We can look at this song with a fatalistic, realistic point of view and get very sad. But when we see the truth in it, we recognize that we can’t stop change, growth or death. If this is the case, then why are we living in the past 90% of the time? Why are we not stepping forward into life 100% of the time with vitality and love and generosity and compassion? …

 

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