Let’s not be so concerned with other people, right now. Let’s discuss the grace you have offered yourself lately? In what ways do you administer grace in your own life, besides playing #candycrush?
An Example of Grace in My Own Life
When I lived in Nashville I had a very successful business, which included both music lessons (voice and piano) and a hypnotherapy practice of the clinical nature. I was used to people recommending my practice because of many successful reports from clients who had gone on to do great things in the music department and people who had had complete healings in the clinical hypnosis part. I had been in practice for over 28 years in Nashville. My reputation and my successes had time to generate return business and also friends of friends would often recommend me.
When I moved to Florida, I assumed that I would be one of the frontrunners here because of all of my 35 years of experience in Nashville.
I understood the circumstance, though, of starting a new business. I have to remember that a long-standing reputation as a successful teacher and hypnotherapist doesn’t matter to people who don’t know you or your friends and family. Their judgments are harsher.
In Nashville I had people come to my practice with high recommendations from producers, agents, musical theater teachers, other students, band members, and recording studies. In a different city, those recommendations mean little to nothing.
Also, three years ago, I had decided that I was going to approach life through a spiritual microscope. I didn’t want to look at life as a business venture. I wanted to live everyday being led by my meditations and by the angels and spirits toward a more fulfilling, prosperous, and joyful life.
Recently, after much prayer about success, I heard a message in my spirit:
“Simply move forward with the opportunities that are set in front of you! Don’t hesitate. Many other opportunities will follow.”
Very soon after this prayer, many opportunities began to come my way. Here is the catch, though: When you ask for Spirit to lead you, you must be ready to be led away from some things as much as being led toward them. (This includes friends, home, some family members, places of work, and places you play.)
Since this prayer, I have gain a few clients every week, but some also leave or dismiss me as their teacher or helper. This is the part that requires grace. I have had more of a turn over in clients than I have had in years. The people who stay are more than exuberant about the work we do together. However, the people who leave are also exuberant. It’s as if Spirit is saying “no” to me and to them immediately.
Most of the time I’m completely surprised at who leaves, because they have expressed to me how grateful they are and how I’ve helped them so much. Then, a week later, they quit.
I am personally left with a feeling of lack and a hit to my self-confidence.
You may ask: “How can someone who has been successful for so many years believe he is not good enough now?” The truth is in the physiology of your human neural pathways in the brain that are hit whenever you get triggered by an old belief of yourself. Your circumstance changes, but your thoughts and beliefs as you have learned your spiritual lesson should stay the same. But, often, you will find yourself in an old place, feeling depression and remorse.
This is the point of the story!
When you are triggered with an old belief about yourself, you must use every tool you know to keep yourself guarded from the negative thoughts of the past. Keep people around you who are full of positivity. Personally, when I’m not afraid to admit I’m losing confidence, my helpers immediately come to my aid, sharing the good news of “Who I Am” in the One Mind of God. I am not who I was as a child. This is important.
Self-grace is even more important than you think.
I had an experience of this feeling recently. I took an entire day for myself. I cancelled everything and sat with my thoughts and with the uncomfortable feeling of being not worthy and not good enough. I walked down a dark road to meet the phantom voices of these thoughts. I stared them in the face and spoke my truth to the entities. Then I meditated.
I did this ritual most of the day, by myself, and fully exposed to spirit. By evening, I felt as if I was returning to normal. I was able to let go of the old thoughts completely and move forward again.
Had I not taken the time to be still and recognize the issues coming up, to be honest with myself, the feelings would have been oppressed and tamped down. Eventually, I would have gotten sick from the old, festering thoughts; and they would have manifested in negative ways.
I’m not sure that I won’t continue to feel some of these negative feelings again, but I feel well equipped with Spiritual Fortitude and great affirmations that will keep me on guard for the negativity of the past, if they do return.
We have the power to have GRACE for ourselves. We must use it. We can give all of our grace away to others. If we do so and save none for ourselves, then we will eventually end up disliking ourselves for the sake of helping others.
In this case, you might as well put down your bag of love, leave it on the altar, and walk away from all the good you do. Grace can’t come from a person who doesn’t forgive him- or herself. It comes from someone who understands and empathizes with the person experiencing negativity, even if (and most especially if) it is you.
Then and only then can you be a healer in this world.