Tag: separation

5 Steps to Going from Pain to Gain #growingfrompain #divorce #abandonment #spiritualadvice

Recently, I saw myself take a completely different road than I normally would have taken after a painful breakup. In times of hurt, I would usually pout, mourn, then pout and mope, then get really angry, before any healing began. This most recent time, I walked through the door of being vulnerable into whatever change Spirit was calling me to do. As I did so, I discovered one of the most valuable parts of my subconscious grieving in the background, like a young child left in a dark hallway for forty some years.

I shared my story about this situation a couple of days ago in my 5-24-15 blog entitled “Finding Resolve from My Insane Ego.” What I didn’t explain was how a great friend and therapist had to share how differently I had reacted before I was even able recognize my own refreshing resolve to an old problem.

Screen Shot 2016-05-11 at 10.04.32 AMSo, how do you get from pain to gain? Most people think that the old paradigm of grieving, then getting angry, then pouting, then moping for days, and then taking lots of time off from life will resolve almost any kind of hurt. In my case, I made a completely different choice, spiritually. Here is the difference in the process:

  1. When something or someone causes you pain in your life, ask this questions immediately: What do I have to learn from this, God? Get out of your pain for long enough to simply ask. Don’t expect an quick answer!
  2. When you get clear about your lesson, ask the second question: How do I get my ego out of the way to learn this lesson? This is the time to spend lots of time quiet in meditation. Clear your mind for divine inspiration. (I know that your ego mind will want to rant and rave and be angry and hurt, but settle into the quietness by continually repeating a mantra such as, “I am so blessed, I am so blessed. I know I’m blessed.”)
  3. Call a friend or a therapist who can support your SPIRITUAL growth around this subject. Don’t call someone who will support your grief! This is important. (You may eventually need to talk with a grief counselor of some sort, but right now, we are hoping for a different resolve than the old way of living through pain.)
  4. Write an intention about the process. It may look like this: “I know that God is all in all, as big as the ocean and as small as the tiniest particle in physics. I, also, know that I am a piece of that whole, always complete—spiritually, mentally, and physically. Nothing or no one can take away from God. I am complete because God is Complete. What I’m feeling physically and mentally, now, is just an effect or a memory of pain—a neural pathway firing from my past like an old computer program. I choose to use this ego feeling to understand a bigger picture that may be lying dormant underneath this temporary pain.”
  5. Allow yourself and your body time to grieve. Death and separation from love is like going through an operation where something is removed from your body. If you have had surgery, you would have to take time to heal. Just imagine that what you went through physically REQUIRES TIME TO HEAL. Pamper yourself. Read a good book. Lay in bed for a couple of days and do very little. All of this is part of the physical process of healing. You will be amazed at how much quicker you recover from the mental anguish, when you treat your body as if it were healing from an operation.

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I guarantee that if you do all that I have shared, your time of grief will be exponentially shorter, as mine was. Growing from pain doesn’t have to mean years of torture. Remember: Spirit wants you always to be happy. The reason why you experience pain in the first place is to eventually COMPLETELY resolve the pain from your past.

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Today’s featured book is “Learning Alone.” It’s a book birthed from my own psychological growth. I guarantee you’ll grow from understanding how to learn from your relationship paradigm in ways you never thought you could— mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Love Is My Decision #overcominganxiety #love #spiritualadvice #psychology

We often set out to love, to discover life’s mysterious in another’s embrace, and to reach out beyond ourselves to find, perhaps, a glimpse of God’s eternal love. What we find, though, are humans ready and willing to meet us at our need but whom are never able to be the surrogacy of eternal love. Perhaps, we look at love from a misguided perception.

In my life, so many people have told me of their love for me that I can’t count them. Some were friends. Others were intimate lovers. Most were family. What I have discovered is that love, in any form, is all the same energy. If we believe that Love is the foundation of the earth and IS Source; if we believe that we are one as that Source; then, we must believe that we already have all the love we need right now!

No one person, or even countless people and friends, can neither take away, nor add, to the love that IS us, that has created us, and that sustains us now.

So, when you think you possess the love of one person, think again. You have an expression of his/her love that is already inside of you. It excites us to play out this love, because it is our nature to be love in every way. But, because we are humans, love sometimes folds up like an old love letter never to be read again. Or worse yet, to be read over and over again to try to find the missing love that we think we have lost.

Write this down on your heart: No one person can add or subtract from the Love that you are! Not now. Not ever! Don’t give another person that power.

I’m not saying don’t express love in all ways. I’m saying release from your expectation for any one person to fill the gaps where you think love isn’t. When we have anxiety, we often think that love isn’t filling our needs, because the anxiety still exists. Your anxiety is no one’s responsibility but your own to deal with. Loving another has nothing to do with your personal anxiety. No amount of sex or intimacy can cause anxiety or loneliness to go away. It will remain until you accept it, make friends with it, and learn to lead its loving Source.

Love is my decision. Right here and now!

GLUTEN FREE COVER

Today’s featured book is a Gluten Free Cookbook based on my vegetarian cookbook I wrote so many years ago. As I have found great help releasing gluten from my diet, from losing weight to greater mental acuity to ease in my arthritic pain and headaches, I wanted to share these easy recipes. Most are 30 minutes or less. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels,  Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Creating Separation

As a student of Spirit, I feel as if I have erred in my thinking about unity and individuality. Today, instead of creating a new religion around my Ego beliefs, I want to be all-inclusive. I intend to know that whom I attract is exactly what God intends. The words we so carefully choose to make us separate, but equal, may only causing more separation.

Think about the words we can use to describe ourselves. I’m Gay. I’m an artist. I’m a writer. I’m a man. I’m a metaphysician. I’m a clinical hypnotherapist. I’m a romantic. I’m an entrepreneur. All of these terms individualize me from the whole. This separatism isn’t what we need right now in the world. We can be individuals without dividing ourselves and our beliefs into sectarian communities. We can’t create unity by opposing everyone around us.

The truth is: I’m trying to find a way to be accurately individual and be a part of the whole without having to express my differences. I had a dream last night in which someone was bible-thumping at me. I got very angry in the dream and reamed the person who was Ego-tizing the bible. Yet, I see so many times as I have offered my own belief in the metaphors of life, I have often done exactly the same.

The key question here is: am I trying to separate myself from everyone else with my opinions, or draw them together? I came to Florida with a large intent to help the many gay people who have been disenfranchised from religion and spirituality. I wanted to help them on the way to find a unique version of spirituality that only a gay man or woman can have with God. But, I see, that none of these gay people have asked for my help. By offering my help I’m only confirming that something needs to be fixed in God’s world.

I don’t believe that anything needs to be fixed in God’s world. What needs to be changed or altered is our own, individual minds that seek to see only the effects of the world and not the premise that God is the author and finisher of all! The world offers many chances to separate ourselves, but only few chances to come together and see truth as It Is.

We can’t begin to “fix” anyone if we think the world needs fixing. It doesn’t. Our perception of the world needs to be changed. When we see that everything operates in divine order, we know that the only perception that needs fixing is our own Ego ideations. When we get that we are God incarnate, we realize that the only hand of God that reaches out from the heavens is God in You. The only prayers offered to this world are offered THROUGH you. So, if you want to make change, stop separating yourself from the whole. See you and me as one wonderful creation of God, always moving toward our perfection together. This is God! This is spiritual law. This is divine unity in action.

If we start from here, seeing the whole complete and changed, operating as One in Spirit, we can begin to treat for change in the effects of the world now.

Coming Up: Burgeoning Uncertainty… Watch the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBKXWwgDyHw

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GLUTEN FREE COVER

Help your own body by releasing from genetically modified wheat. This GMO gluten is what causes an acid-based body, creating sickness, stomach upset (swollen belly), diabetes, weight issues, brain malfunctioning, and arthritic conditions. I GUARANTEE IF YOU TRY THIS NEW WAY, WITHIN 2 WEEKS YOU WILL FEEL A MAJOR DIFFERENCE IN YOUR BODY! Buy the book here!

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

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