What You Don’t See
Everyday we get up and put on our game faces to go to work and face the challenges of the day. What most of us don’t see is the pain, the grief, the sickness, the anxiety, and the stress each of us have to deal with just to get through each day. How do we do it and function in a work environment efficiently without imploding internally and exploding externally?
We’re magical creatures–humans, how we can compartmentalize our emotions and take care of the tasks that are in front of us and leave what is bothering us on some unseen folder nested deep in our minds until work is over, the kids are asleep, the house is manageable and we have a moment to breathe is an amazing feat.
Is the few moments we give ourselves at the end of the day enough time to really grieve, deal with our heartache, test the waters of our insecurities and heal whatever is bothering us? The truth is, it rarely isn’t.
Life is an amalgam of too many things to handle for most people. We need to simplify.
I went to a workshop once. We were asked to put our deepest dreams on a large piece of cardboard. It was on the left side. And from that, like a family tree, we were asked to tell what we thought these dreams would give us emotionally.
I remember my dreams were to be a movie actor and singer. I thought it would give me joy and fame.
The next question was interesting… What emotion does fame give you? I wrote acceptance. (You were to respond to each of the words your wrote.)
Then again the family tree thing.. What emotion does acceptance give you? Self love.
The last question was the clincher: What other work in life could you do that could give you this same emotion that you ended with. Are you sure the dream you started with is your dream. Or is it your insecurity?
MY ENTIRE LIFE CHANGED!