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Capitalizing on Truth #authenticyou #outofthecloset #tellthetruth

We live in a world where truth has more meanings than the word love. Truth may be telling someone what they want to hear, what you think they can handle, or your version of the truth. Most often, though, what we hear from even our closest friends is a modified version of truth, filtered by many aspects of our humanness—fear, compassion, and avoidance. This happens most often in the news when political sides eschew even the minor issues. Where can we find honesty in this world?

When we live in the fear of people finding out we are gay, of a political persuasion, spiritual, or even partake of the occasional use of pot, we must reduce our words to half-truths and live from an unauthentic place. Who has the energy for that kind of life, in hiding, concocting new version of truth on the fly for each individual in your life and for different reasons? This is a no-brainer.

“Tell the truth and tell it fast!” is one of my favorite sayings of late. But, displaying your truth for the world to see, like anything in life, takes practice and a cavalier soul. You must be unwilling to hide any aspect of your life. This kind of moxie usually comes from years of letting people judge you, living in an enclosed box, and suddenly finally realizing that who you are is righteous, perfect, and even one of the vast parts of God, no matter what your nature. God is all in all. You are fine and beautiful exactly the way you are right now.

Being truthful doesn’t mean that you have nowhere to grow. Of course, we all have a spiritual path on earth that may take our entire physical lives to reach. So, our version of the truth will change. Our thoughts about life will alter during the course of our life. But, that doesn’t mean we should deny our truth in the moment. What you feel, what you express unabashedly, and what you think is pertinent matters. Not everyone needs to know your opinion and be obstructed by it. Your opinion is yours.

I’ve learned that since my opinions often change, proclaiming them at the top of a mountain may not be to my advantage. Often, I take the bits of truth I learn daily and tuck them into my heart, knowing that eventually some solid truth will raise to the surface. In other words, you don’t have to know everything to have truth or to wear it proudly. You simply have to be honest with yourself and with others. Being authentic is always the prize!

Often, the best answer to a question is: I just don’t know—yet!

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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A Broken Rosary #inspiration #lifepurpose #spiritualadvice

I had an audition yesterday for a priest in a television show. So, I made a vicar’s collar, found a sleek black shirt, got out all of my old Catholic memorabilia—a scapula, my first rosary, and a necklace with a cross. I even found my first white bible from when I got confirmed. I read through the script for the television show. It seemed as if the scene called for a funny ending, because a young lady wanted to find out how many “Hail Mary’s” she needed to pray to get rid of a big sin she was planning in the future. I had this idea that I would find a huge rosary, like with beads the size of grapefruit.

When I asked my family if anyone had a rosary I could use for the audition, my sister came up with a beautiful, ceramic rosary my father got in Italy, that had beads the size of tangerines. It was perfect!

I practiced the scene a hundred times without any problems. I wrapped the beads in a big towel to bring it to the audition, so nothing would break. Of course, when I wasn’t looking, the entire rosary fell off of a table, onto a ceramic floor and cracked in three spots and the beads disengaged in two places. I wanted to cry, not because the rosary meant anything special to me, but because it was a gift my late father had given to his favorite daughter. I didn’t even begin to know how I would tell my sister.

I live by one very simple rule when it comes to saying what needs to be said: “Tell the truth and tell it fast!” So, I called her immediately to share the bad news. She said, “Bo, what do you think I care more about, you or the rosary? I’m okay with you gluing it back together.”

Then I looked on Facebook and saw a posting by a friend that talked about how in the Japanese culture, when something breaks, they glue it back together with gold and keep it as a treasure. I loved that idea. So, I carefully fixed my sister’s rosary, thanked Spirit for the lesson. Now, I put aside my guilt and continue to treat for the opportunity to get a great role in this television show! Life goes on. We must take care of the present and move on quickly, never looking back.

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A Cookbook, a Novel, a Self-Help Book, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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The Moxie to Tell the Truth

Honesty takes strength of character. Honesty requires understanding that sometimes you will be rejected by your peers. Honesty says that you know and respect yourself enough to live by your rules and no one else’s code of ethics. What you might not know is that honesty is the key to unlocking the fear of abandonment.

My entire life I have lived by one basic code of ethics: Don’t hurt anyone if you can avoid it.

This primal modality is based on anxious attachment. In an anxious attached person, the prime reason for any behavior is fear of abandonment. So, as a child of a broken family in which my mother left my father when I was eight, and I didn’t see her again until I was fifteen, my worst fear has always been rejection. As a good coping skill, I learned to get people to like me. How I did that was to make them right in almost every situation. I fought for their righteousness. I stayed steadfast in friendships that rarely honored me and mostly always honored someone who needed adulation. I picked friends who were either narcissistic or avoidantly attached, which kept me chasing them all the time.

When you live by this kind of ideal, you tend to grow up with a poor self-image. Now most people who know me would think that this description would be just the opposite of who I am. You may be right in some ways, but when it comes to relationships, I almost always had put myself last.

As a result, a concurrent anger has built up as relationships have come and gone, and I have been left feeling as if I have done all the right things, yet still have been left alone—abandoned once again, just like the past. The fear of what could take place from my childhood, the fear that made me act in a way that clung to friendships and act adoringly and clingy, was the exact thing that probably pushed people away. If it didn’t push them away, it certain made me push a number of old relationships away in the last few months as I have gotten stronger.

Honestly, when I look back at my life, I don’t have regrets. I see life from a compassionate observer perspective. I don’t deny that the choices I had made in the past were not the best. But I also don’t blame myself for developing a character that was superimposed upon me. I didn’t ask to be born into my family. I didn’t ask to be abused sexually. I didn’t ask to grow up dirt poor. These attributes of my life are what made my life’s lessons so difficult and also interestingly beautiful.

Actually, when I look back at my life, I’m amazed that I’m standing and successful at what I do. I have family members who barely make it financially each month. I have family members who have been through and may still be in addiction. This same familial upbringing wrought much more than one anxiously attached young man. It brought with it many different psychoses in many different forms.

But strength of character and truth has been the essence of my existence for the past few weeks. It has made me wear a mantle of protection, which after proper diagnosis, I realize is self-caring. And when you are taking proper of yourself, you are no longer living in abandonment.

Many things have come crashing down on my life over the past few months. But I have stayed steadfast in my belief that there is a divine presence, perfectly prepared to pave a pathway to recreate me over and over again until I am glowing in spiritual love and light. This takes practice. This spiritual walk takes the assurance that every fall and every mishap in our lives is divinely inspired and made to develop us into stronger and more perfect individuals.

“What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!” We’ve heard it sung. We believe it! We know it to be true. And so it is!

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