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Radical Change #radicalchange

The dictionary defines change as: to make something different. But if you search deeper and read more passages in the definition, some places define change more radically: to give a completely different form or appearance to: transform. Often, when we begin on a journey for change as in the New Year, we start out with modest or large goals. “I want to lose 50 pounds by Easter!” “After thirty years of smoking two packs of cigarettes a day, I’m going to quit cold turkey!” Or “this is the year I’m going to dedicate an hour a day to reading, self-realization, and meditation!”

Most often, after about two weeks, our big dreams of radical change turn to the kind of change you get in a vending machine. I’m going to lose 50 pounds by Easter turns into “well, maybe I’ll stop eating that candy bar between lunch and dinner.” Or your desire to commit to self-realization takes you to a K-Mart clearance to buy a large, oval mirror! Change is hard. I work with people every day who begin the process of modifying behavior with me. I can see for some, they are completely ready. With others, the idea in their minds hasn’t become tangible or ready to be expressed.

I have one particular client I can think of who said, “I want to quit smoking, lose weight, and quit drinking. But here’s the hitch: I want to do it on my own terms, in my own time, and without anyone telling me what to do!” I have to congratulate him on his moxie. Not many people realize that change goes against everything in our stasis state of mind. By definition, everything is changing every moment of every day. But in our Ego Mind, our goal is to get to comfort and stay there. Then, we wonder why we get so frustrated with ourselves when the pounds don’t come off or the time never appears to take care of ourselves.

To make radical change we need to be more like a caterpillar. He starts out on a journey very close to the earth. He then climbs high to a safe place. He wraps himself in a cocoon. Then, slowly, his entire body morphs into a beautiful flying object. Eventually, as he chews his way out of the cocoon, he wakes up again with wings. Every thing changes with the caterpillar. Nothing stays the same: the appearance, the means of travel, the rate at which it moves, and even its steadfast, slow-crawling body transforms to a gentle insect that floats on air. I believe God put this beautiful creature on our path to show us the metaphor of radical change.

If you desire to lose weight, you must first experience your attachment to food and walk steadily, observing your behavior. In time, you will see patterns emerge that were birthed from being rewarded with food, detesting your own body, or wanting to protect yourself from hurt by making your appearance undesirable. When you are clear what you want to change, then you must climb high into your subconscious mind and stay their for awhile watching for the power to change. Wait for that image of what change appears as for you. And lastly, find a perfect modality or course of change.

The next step is to sit with your desire a bit. Feel and see the change before you ever take the move forward. I don’t recommend launching into change. Most people who make quick, sudden changes, end up stopping the natural evolution of change midstream. The person with slow moving perseverance will usually change most effectively.

I promise, if you meditate on your change and see it clearly, you will not even have to “try” to change. Remember what I said before: change is an integral part of life. You will simply place your mind and body in the will of the wind. And just as the wind needs a tree or a flower or your house’s shudders to show its power; you, too, will break forth and emerge like the butterfly to find the wings of change and the wind on which to float.

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No one believes he or she can change overnight. But success in change comes from the metaphors of nature. Seasonally, life changes all around us in nature. Finding Authentic You offers a gradual change perspective, looking at the triune aspects of change as in yoga: Body, Mind and Spirit.

Accessing the ability to change and finding yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call getting to the “observer mind.”

In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and body flow to a positive space for change.

Every aspect of FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU fulfills this constant need for diffusing the negative past and dreaming of a fulfilling future.

Step 1: Recognize That Change is Inevitable
Step 2: Release from Resistance to Change
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Preparing for the Cross—Part Two

Release from Resistance to Change

I work with all sorts of different problems as a life coach and clinical hypnotist. With this one specific man, we were dealing with relationship issues. He was having trouble committing.

One balmy week in summer my client told me his mother was in town for a visit, and I gently suggested that she come in with him for his next session.  He didn’t think it was a problem, so we invited her.  Holy mother of God… was I in for a treat.

This particular man had trouble with monogamy. So, he invites his mother into the conversation by asking her in his NY Italian accent, “Ma, did you think that you could be monogamous to Dad when you married to him?”

She appeared to be a little reserved, sitting right at the edge of the couch beside him.  She fidgeted her hands.  “We— ye— see— hmm– Ah, no.”

Honestly, I was pleasantly shocked by her forthright answer.

The son goes on. “Well, Ma, when you married Harry, did you think you could be monogamous then?”

She looked at me, then at him. “Mhhh, no!”

“How about Sherwood?” my client asks, now incredulous.

His mother moved so close to the front of the couch that I thought she was going to fall off. “Well, honey, maybe.”

Being the good life coach, I smile at his mother without judgment, then quickly focus on my client: “So, tell me, Dick, how does that make you feel?”

Richard is just about to launch into a diatribe about finally understanding why he was never able to be faithful to any of his partners, then looks at his mother and says, “Ma, You don’t understanding the definition of monogamy, do you?”

She says after a very long pause and a puzzled face, “Ah, no.”

Understanding what change is and allowing Spirit to help you define it for your life?

If you don’t understand how to add and subtract, you can’t expect to balance your checkbook. So, you’ve got to understand the tools of change, before you can expect effective results.

Change becomes much easier when you awaken each day believing that the now is all good. Everything is in its perfect place in time, even the tragedies.   Yes, even the tragedies.

In the fifth chapter of the Christian gospel according to Matthew, Jesus gives us some finer understanding of the meaning of change. This is what he says in 5th Chapter of Matthew in the Beatitudes, from the translation, The Message:

“You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With Less of you, there is more of God…”

You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you;

If this is true, then I am led to believe that Jesus was saying that all things are in divine order, and letting go of what we believe to be the end result is the key.  All that you think, all that you experience, all that you are is not just an accident. And the tools of change are right within your grasp. The tools are everything that you are grappling with today. It’s every problem at work or in your relationships. But, you just have to acknowledge it and allow spirit to further define how to deal with each problem.

With a deeper look you may just discover that what you see around you is drawing you into the most effective change your soul needs at this very moment… to be happy.

Last night, there was a bad wind storm, perhaps a tornado. My mother and I were sitting in our living room watching television. Suddenly, without any warning or provocation, we heard what sounded like a freight train heading toward our window.

The wind picked up the roof on my carport and storage shed and literally ripped it right off the house. Scared the beJesus out of me. The lights went out. We were in the dark wondering what to do next and how to proceed.

Life happens in a second. You have to not only be prepared for change, but expect it at every moment. I got on the phone called a couple friends for advice. Then immediately moved toward repairing the damage and rebuilding my life.

The truth, what other choice do we have. At second look the next day, I guess my house could use a new carport paid for by my insurance. Let’s hope they think so.

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