Tag: True Love

Love’s Illusion: I Really Don’t Know Love

Looking for love. Searching with hope. Retreating with defeat. Failing once again. Finding a glimpse. Retreating again.

What I realize is that my search, my hope, my dream of love is just an illusion—a fairytale.

True love is impenetrable, longstanding, hopeful, and secure—and most of all, never needs a large fishing net.

Through so many years of imagining that love would be like the movies and sweep me away from myself and my fears, I finally understand the words to Joni Mitchell’s song, “Both Sides”:

Tears and fears and feeling proud,

To say “I love you” right outloud

Dreams and schemes and circus crowds,

I’ve looked at life that way.

 

Oh but now old friends they’re acting strange,

They shake their heads, they say I’ve changed

Well something’s lost, but something’s gained

In living every day.

 

I’ve looked at life from both sides now

From win and lose and still somehow

… It’s love’s illusions I recall

I really don’t know love at all

It’s love’s illusion that keeps us from knowing when real love and true friendship greets us. It’s the world of fairytales and happy endings that make most of us believe that love comes with lightning and often dies with each tear shed.

I won’t see life like this anymore.

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In all of the relationships in my past—friends, family, and lovers—I’ve always backed away from confrontation. Ultimately, I believed that love would leave if I didn’t agree with the person having an opposing opinion. What I realize now is that this is the True Litmus Test of love. When love does NOT LEAVE after a confrontation, you know that you have found the security of love and having the respect of the person who trusts your love, as well. Each mate’s autonomy remains WITH love.

Millions of adults have lived through parent’s divorces and mostly the first one or two tries at their own intimate relationships don’t last. In fact, U.S. Divorce Rates says that 2.4 million people bet married every year, and 1.2 million get divorced. Of course, the same people getting married are not the ones getting divorced, in most cases, but the numbers are staggering.

  1. Could this be because most of us are looking for something that does not exist?
  2. Could it be that most of us don’t have a real life model for securely attached love?
  3. Could it be that as a result of so many broken homes, we have become a nation of avoidantly and anxiously attached individuals that either run toward love or close the door immediately when love knocks?

All of the above is true. So, how is it that we discover what love is in the face of disastrous beginnings and illusions that surrounds us? Even on popular Social Media sites, all that we generally see are the great and perfect times of friend’s lives. We witness the good more often then we see the struggle in relationships, especially the struggle in the ones that have lasted the longest. As a result, we all have an eschewed vision of love.

Love is quiet.

Love is meek.

Love is transparent.

Love believes that a disagreement leads to deeper understanding.

Love is all around you in the sky and in the cuddle of our beautiful animals.

It’s in the blessed flowers blooming and even in the ones that have had their day in the sun and now are wilting and facing demise.

When you look at love from both sides, as the song suggests, as in the Mindfulness practice of the Buddhist, you recognize that love is perfectly present in every moment of everyday, even in the death of love.

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Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

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Is Understanding a Prerequisite to Love? #facinglove #yournewstory #psychology #spiritualadvice

I have been in a long-term relationships. Probably, if two of my relationships had been in a time when gay people were allowed to marry, I would have been a spouse. However, despite the amount of understanding I had gained from being in a live-in, long-term relationship, I never really understood love until I continued to have compassion and love, even though I couldn’t and didn’t understand the choice of my partner.

People make decisions in many ways. Sometimes a decision is made quickly, sometimes slowly and painfully, sometimes with graphs and spreadsheets. But, inherently, when life hands you a decision that involves emotions, we react in three different ways:

  • avoidantly,
  • anxiously, or
  • securely.

If you do not understand the qualities of the human psyche, you may look at a partner’s decision as unfathomable, odd or even crazy. But true love takes none of that into consideration, especially when the decision does not involve the relationship. If the decision is a personal one, such as, which presidential candidate to endorse, a career change, or letting go of a long-standing friendship—these are all personal. What part of decision-making actually involves the other partner or spouse?

Many couples get into big trouble when one spouse tries to control the personal life and decisions of the other spouse; especially in the areas I have referred to above. Love has never been about “understanding” another person. Love is always about being “compassionate” in the face of not understanding.

True love is rare in these days. I feel fortunate to count myself among the few who have a relationship with his best friend, confident, and prayer partner. When all of these come together into a place where you also find a physical attraction, you have hit the jackpot! Why is this so?

We all desire to have in relationship:

  • the strength of a friendship;
  • the compassion of a mother;
  • a solid, visceral physical attraction; and
  • mostly the desire to spend time telling each other truths that you don’t feel free to share with anyone else in the world.

These special qualities in a marital or long-term relationships are paramount to success and ultimately to happiness.

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I’ve been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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2-Bo_headshot_Blue shirtA Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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A Love That Lifts You Up #truelove #spiritualadvice #personalpower #psychology #relationshipadvice

I woke up to total immersion in Love this morning. My heart, my mind, my body were at one with something greater than I, but yet part of me. It drew me to the best of who I am, which happens to be inside perfect Peace and Love. This was a WOW moment. I didn’t want to move any part of my body. I didn’t want to risk shifting from this perfect space, yet I know this divine love is everywhere present. Why is it, though, that we only experience this feeling sometimes? Why not every moment of every day?

Screen Shot 2016-05-11 at 10.04.32 AMThe answer to this question is in our ability to stay present, to remain authentic, and to love what is exactly in front of us no matter the circumstance. We must see love in every thing and commit to love as All to actually be in the presence of love always. The only block to seeing love always is in our own personal space, in our own choices.

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If you choose love in every moment, you will be immersed in love in every moment. Somehow, we can get coerced by life to challenge love’s presence. We say, “How can getting a flat tire on the Interstate be love?” without realizing that the man who comes to our rescue needs to help you to experience your love. Love is a different way of looking at life. Love is in unity.

I’m getting ready for one of the biggest book launches of my life. Next Tuesday or Wednesday I will begin contacting my dearest and best friends to help me launch this project into the Universe with love. I can’t think of a better way to begin than in the hands of your love and kindness. It is with this power that we can get a very important book into the hands of all who need love to create a better life, with more joy, more prosperity, more love, more respect, more of everything we deserve.

The blocks to this love are in your mind. This book, “Your New Story, Your New Life” will teach you to remove the blocks keeping you from love and rewrite your story according to YOU.

When you get an email from me in the next couple of weeks, please help me take this book to the next level. Love is counting on us to make an impact on the world. I cannot do this alone. We can only do this as a community, a village of peacemakers using our power for good to get Truth on the tongues of millions.

We have seen enough war, hate, political rebellion, and death for any one lifetime. It is time to think Love, act Love, and be Love on this Earth.

Thanks for you help.

Bo

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I’ve been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

 

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?
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If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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