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Why Are Goats in the Trees?

I turned on the television on Sunday morning to a picture of Goats hanging out in trees, as if it were their primary place of residence. I thought, what is going on here? #Goatsintrees was not how God intended it. Or was it?

When food isn’t on the ground and goats are hungry, the goat is going to find a way to climb the tree, as it does in Morocco.

AtlanasObscura.com writes that the Argania tree is not the most aesthetically pleasing plant in the world with a rough, thorny bark and gangly, crooked branches. But these Moroccan trees still tend to attract admirers, thanks in large part to the hordes of goats that can usually be found perched in them.

There is a secondary benefit to the goats’ eating habits found in their excrement. After the goats finish eating the fruit and nuts off the tree, they pass valuable clumps of seeds, which are then pressed to create the much sought-after and expensive Argan oil found in many beautification products worldwide. This oil has made the natives of this regions millionaires.

So, why in a spiritual blog talk about goats in trees? I sing about the wonders of the universe, because I’m happy.

I know that there is no place on this Earth and in the Universe that God isn’t.

I know that the One Mind that Is God is also you and I.

Because of this amazing power and support from the universe, a goat can not only jump into a large tree, but it can stand there with many other goats feasting on a rare fruit. From this fruit these animals can actually digest and excrete seeds that turn insoluble and inedible fruit for humans into a multi-million dollar beauty oil franchise.

This can only be the work of God. Can you imagine what had to happen for anyone to look at this barren wasteland and say, “Hey, maybe we can make money from goat poop?” Where did that thought come from but the minds of men and women who had trust that they would be taken care of by the universe? I

  1. So, any situation that you are in today, think of those goats.
  2. You can jump that high.
  3. You can find the solution to your problem today.
  4. You can search in unknown places for the answers by listening to that still small voice inside of you and harkening to the call.

Trust in the universal love all around you to solve your problems today!

 

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Look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Your New Story, Your New Life” with a pathway to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website or on Amazon. Thanks!

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What or Who Can We Really Believe?

Today was a perfect example of the world looking to the media to help us decide who to believe is telling the truth in the #Comey_hearing (6-8-17). The human race has come to the place that we don’t know who to trust. I trust 5 people in my life. That’s it. Outside of my close circle, I literally trust no one, not the president, the politicians, the police, the teachers, the medical staff who treat me, even some of my family… literally 5 people. That’s it! Why is this so?

Trust comes from honor and transparency. Let’s face it: how many people are you willing to be completely transparent with? Really! I know that even in 99% of marriages, especially the ones I have counseled over the years, there are so many secrets between spouses that I can’t imagine how any trust is there at all.

For this very reason, my husband and I have sought out to be completely transparent, even if it makes us angry, hurt, or anxious. You can get over those temporal emotions. What a relationship can’t get over is a big trust issue.

In Psychology Today Abigail Brenner, M.D., a psychiatrist in private practice, writes that Trust is the first of 7 most important aspects to make a great relationship work. Any relationship: a friendship, a mentor/student relationship, a work relationship, a family relationship, and, of course, a marriage cannot and will not stay healthy without the oxygen of relationship, which is Trust. In my estimation that means full and complete transparency.

  • Your partner wants to look at your recent emails? It’s fine.
  • Your husband wants to review your phone log? Sure, why not. I have nothing to hide.
  • Your boss wants to check your recent expenditures to see if you have been pilfering money from the company! Absolutely. Have at it.

What do you have to hide? That’s the big question. If you start out a relationship open and honest, the biggest trust issue becomes: will you continue to share the hard questions like:

 

  • Did you just check out the hot dude that walked by?
  • You called your ex? What’s up with that?
  • You’re keeping in touch with an old lover?

 

These kinds of questions not only need to be answered, but discussed. “What is causing you to suddenly distrust me? Did I do something recently that seemed suspicious?” A great relationship starts to build tremendous trust when it gets over these initial hard places. I can now say without a shadow of a doubt, I trust my husband more than I have ever trusted anyone in my life. Truly.

In a great relationship, you not only want to be open, but you want to understand the nature of the distrust. Trust me, we all have issues around trust. I have been shat upon so many times in relationship that it’s a wonder I don’t have exterior stains on my skin. However, I do know that the stains are internal, because every once in a while something that someone will say or do causes a trigger or a PTSD moment when I lose my peaceful path and enter into a dark place of fear.

Let’s face it: abandonment is usually the primary fear. Someone in the past left us, hurt us, lied to us—a parent, teacher, pastor, friend…. You name it, I’m sure you have as many people as I have had over the years simply lie right to your face without the blink of an eye.

Usually, though, after you have had a hard look back at a relationship, you can see where you lost trust completely and should have bailed. For instance, in one of my first long-term relationships, I witness my new partner of 6-8 months lying to his mother on the phone. I knew it was a flat-out lie, because I knew the truth. I even questioned my boyfriend about it. Basically, he thought his mother could not have handled the truth.

But who was he to decide what his mother, the one who gave him life, could handle? Trust is almost always the best tact unless, of course, it is at the wrong moment (like at a funeral or after someone lost a game or is sick). Truth must be told, but it can wait.

Back to my original reason for writing this blog: Who can we trust?

I have decided about three years that when I moved from Nashville to Florida, every new person would go through a long vetting process before I allowed them into my life. Do you know how many new good friends I have in Florida—one! That’s right. One.

I also decided that the people I assume were my friends from the past I had to re-evaluate. Did they fit into the place of total trust? What I realized is that most people were in that second category: Trust for the most part. I have no reason not to trust them, but I don’t know them well enough to truly trust.

When you meet trust, you understand why that if you have one or two great, trusted friends in your life, you are fortunate. Be the most honest person you can be, be compassionate about it, and you will always attract the same. Like attracts like.

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. For more information and individual pricing or as a guest speaker, give me a call: 954-253-6493.

SKYPE sessions are available. Click here for more information.* * *

 

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Your New Story, Your New Life” with a pathway to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website or on Amazon. Thanks!

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I’m Thinking About TRUST!

Yesterday I was reminded of my old story from my past that I may have relived in other ways had I understood #trust during that time of my life. Basically, I thought that I would completely lose #faith&trust after just one failure to live up to a mutual promise of monogamy. Today, I wonder if in an eight-year relationship if I had failed by not forgiving. But, you can judge for yourself.

My partner of 8 years left his e-mail open, which led me to discover that he was having an affair with the partner I was with before him (that relationship was 7 years)! It was anyone’s nightmare. Trust me, it had been mine.

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Life is full of moments that make up your story. Some are good, some bad. Some are just not all that memorable. However, every day as we surge forward with our desires and wishes, we intersect with other humans. This connection to my ex-partner was dynamic in a way that it changed me completely—it kept me from trusting and left me desperately anxious for a long time.

Yesterday, my husband and I were at a friend’s house discussing one of my books “Learning Alone,” in which I share how relationships can actually be the critical structure of your life, by mapping out my life according to relationship. David, my husband, took the liberty of sharing the story I eluded to at the beginning, which led me to explain a bit about what happened.

My ex was going through a change of life. He woke up one day and literally was someone my friends and I didn’t recognize. He was drinking, making stupid mistakes, and hanging with people I didn’t know well enough to judge. During this dark time we barely spoke. It was just after a couple of months of being totally rude and mean that he had the affair.

Our friend, who is a film director, saw through the lens of his movie-making mind. He said, “Your ex knew that your first partner was mean and abusive. So, it sounds as if he sought out his own punishment for straying from your relationship!”

I replied, “My ex and I cried in each other’s arms all night the evening I discovered what had happened. He seemed truly sorry for hurting me. In my angst, I asked him to leave, as I thought I would never be able to trust him again.”

My husband interjected: “I know I wouldn’t have been able to trust him again.”

But I sat there wondering… It’s a good thing to deliberate decisions from the past as if you are an onlooker of a story that could have had a different ending. I don’t believe we should condemn our past decisions, but we can’t learn from them if we don’t try to see the situation from many different perspectives. Sometimes, those perspectives can only come from growing and maturing. Such as is the case with this decision to ask my partner of 8 years to leave our home.

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. For more information and individual pricing or as a guest speaker, give me a call: 954-253-6493.

SKYPE sessions are available. Click here for more information.* * *

 

Go to Bo’s Personal Website

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

 

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