Tag: uncertainty

Loitering in Uncertainty #creativethought #uncertainty #psychology

Would a world where all hard choices had an immediate answer be a good thing? We receive character building from our difficult choices in life. When discernment must guide our steps, we expand our horizons and reasoning abilities. We learn nothing and may possibly harm others and ourselves, when we make quick and thoughtless choices.

Moving through any uncertainty holds the inception of true character. Value it! But, also, learn to make firm choices in life. Being stuck in the place of uncertainty can stop your life’s movement forward and create a paralyzing feeling in every area of your life.

For a few years, I coached a brilliant client. He could answer any question about any subject. I consistently was amazed at how much information he could retain in this brain. It was as if his mind was a vacuum, sucking up any and all information—small and large. But, when life came down to making simple decisions, he froze. He feared making wrong choices, so much so that he couldn’t make any choice at all. So, one thing you have to realize is that education has little to do with making a good choice. However, having all of the pertinent data about a decision you need to make is necessary to decide anything with strength and fortitude.

What I always look for in any decision I have to make—traveling somewhere, accepting an offer, changing jobs, or even relationship issues is an indefinable peace that accompanies the idea of making a hard choice. Underneath the scary feelings of something different or breaking out of your normal paradigm, your heart already knows what you need, how much need, and where you must go to get the necessary tools for your decision. This internal compass is the most important part of making good choices. So, if you’re not a spiritual person and don’t react much to feelings and instinct, you may find it even more difficult to understand this message.

The client I spoke about often made fun of my words about feelings and said that he never thought about them. They were sappy. Everything was fact to him. Truth be told, when he was a child, he wasn’t allowed a feeling. So, the only truths he could be sure of were what he read in books and gleaned through years and years of constant schooling. So, to avoid a nagging mother who never allowed him authentic feelings, my client learned to accept fact as the only truth worth having.

After years of coaching, feelings actually began to emerge in a big way. Underneath the feelings were instincts—raw and brutally honest. A spiritual adult existed in his heart, and in your heart, as well, that knows your path before you do. You can call it whatever you want, but like a mother’s instinct, you have an innate ability to know what steps to take without even understanding why.

When you mix this internal knowledge with a deductive, reasoning mind, you get the best of both worlds. Decision-making becomes a breeze.

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Out on the Ledge of #Decision-making

Decision-making is simply a matter of taking something that is tangible and using your deductive, reasoning mind to create an answer surrounding the situation. However, with most people, making a decision is the hardest task in the world. For these select few, a decision means finality. A decision could mean that there is no turning back, once your signature is on the bottom of the page. A decision might question all of your integrity, from the beginning of your life. All of these answers bring with it a modicum of fear.

Let’s look at the harder decisions in life, such as leaving a job, releasing a relationship, or moving. I would say that these three life events are the hardest situations with which we could choose to make decisions. Yet, in all of these decisions, from the very inception of change, your heart and your mind knows which way to go. The arrow has been pointing in the right direction for quite some time. You just haven’t been able to step on the path toward your hearts true desire. Why is that so?

Recently, I had to make one of the hardest decisions in my life. I would say that I stepped way out on the ledge of uncertainty when I left my job, my friends, sold my home, and moved to South Florida to be near my family. I would like to share with you the process of my decision, so that you can clearly see how to walk through the hard choices in your own life.

Inspiration: First of all, any difficult decision starts with an inclination or a direct edict from Spirit or your own heart. Once you get this inspiration, the next step is to sketch a blueprint of what your life would look like if you made this change.

The Blueprint:  Literally, use a notebook and mark the left side as your homeostasis side (if you didn’t make the change), then mark the right side as the blueprint to change. Start with the right side. Go through every aspect of your life that would need to change. Figure out finances, direction, places, jobs, and friends that would support this decision. Every good builder always starts with a terrific plan. Many decisions are never made for the better, because a person had an idea, but never fleshed out the vision.

The Comparison: When you have completed your blueprint, then you must compare your current life (homeostasis) with the life you intend to lead with the new idea. Look at every aspect of this change with a fine-toothed comb. Hunt for the nits hiding beneath the tangled hair of your complacency. You may find places in your blueprint that you need to make some changes. Do it! You are still in the idea stage. All blue prints go through an editing process.

The Decision: You’ll notice that once you have done the work of deliberation and culling out all of the fine details of your vision, that a decision isn’t so hard now. Even something as difficult as moving your life could mean a new start, time with family, moving away from old, debilitating relationships, and simply having the time and energy to make a shift in your spiritual life, too.

I’ve found all of these attributes to be true in my life concerning my move. I’m not saying that every step of the way hasn’t been a little difficult. To be honest, most of the way has been rife with change and an insecure feeling following me every step of the way. But, anything worth having, requires facing every fear straight in the eyes and saying: “I’m worth this change! I will build this dream based on the inspiration of my soul, because I feel led by God and Spirit.” Don’t forget that the last, main reason you have made this decision was because it started with a Divine Inspiration!

Coming Up: I’ll be talking more about the art of Uncertainty in the next few days. Tune in and find out more about this topic!

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[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

 

 

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Out on the Ledge of #Uncertainty

At the Grand Canyon, I saw a rock ledge that looked safe enough to shimmy on to, to see deep into the canyon. As I was young and a lot less fearful, I decided to disregard the signs that said “DO NOT GO BEYOND THIS POINT” and walk along the narrow path to the great view. To my surprise, I was not afraid, but more amazed at the beauty of the vista. I remember the day distinctly, because as I was shimmying onto the rock, my 13-year-old nephew was screaming, “Don’t do it, Uncle Bo. You’re scaring me!” The combination of my own fascination coupled with the voice of his fear, changed me in that moment. I understood, a little more, that voice of fear in my own mind, fighting against everything that stands on the ledge of uncertainty.

As I have gotten older I am certain that I prefer what I know over uncertainly—absolutely, not doubt in my mind. However, when I think about life and the nature of existence, the only consistent is CHANGE—inevitable, physical, and absolute change! So, if everything is changing around me, why am I so hell-bent on holding on to the fragments of life that I can only somewhat control?

Brian Kessler says, “The closest to being in control we will ever be is the moment that we realize we are not!”

Control comes directly from fear—fear of change, fear of death, fear of financial ruin, fear of not having enough, fear of sadness. The list is endless. However, has any one of these fears helped me get past my desire to control life and live joyfully uncertain? No way, no how!

Yesterday, as I was trying to get my new license in Florida, which was an entire day’s work, and manage getting prescriptions for a dental operation today, my mother called and told me her car was broken down on the side of the road. Of course, I dropped everything and went to her rescue. As I was doing so, I noticed that I had become less resistant in the past week. Instead of being angered and frustrated, I simply let life unfold as it was going to, without fretting or getting exasperated. I realized in that moment, I had no control over the situation. As a result, I got everything done with ease and everything happened according to divine destiny, which is the best I can ever hope for.

You see, no matter how much we fret, get angry, or pound our fists, we don’t change what happens around us for the better. We only make ourselves more resistant to inevitable change, which creates illness, anxiety, and stress in the body and mind.

Today, try this simple exercise! Before you start off your day, say a little affirmation to yourself: “Though I may have my day planned perfectly, there may be a more wonderful plan for me, if I simply let life happen and bend with the change around me!”

 

Coming Up: I’ll be talking more about the art of Uncertainty in the next few days. Tune in and find out more about this topic!

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[Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]

 

 

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