Tag: waiting on the lord

The Art of Waiting

Nothing is more frustrating in life than having to wait. We wait on the phone for service, sometimes for hours to get help with our cable, our computers, and general customer service. We wait for doctors, for late friends, and for our cars to be ready from service. However, it seems that the place we need to be most adept at waiting is with our own dreams. We get disparaged at the first roadblocks, so much so, sometimes, that we are knocked off course completely. We get frustrated with waiting for our own dreams to manifest, and, yet, we don’t hesitate to stay on hold for hours with customer service in India to get our cable fixed. Something is wrong with this picture.

I realized this in my own life as I meditated this morning. Blissful meditation after blissful meditation, I still wake up anxious for all that I see in my dreams to appear before me. I don’t think anything in life is like magic. What has been in the oven baking, after being carefully prepared by you, is simply ready when it’s ready. The prepared dish seems a surprise because the timer goes off, and we forgot we had already done all of the work. There was nothing magical about how long you worked for your dream.

I remember a time when I got my first publication deal. The news came like a surprise out of the sky; however, I had been writing diligently four novels before it happened. But, I hadn’t planned for this particular publishing deal. I had been hoping one of my novels would be published. But, I’m not so sure Spirit works the way we think It does. We prepare and pray and dream about something specifically. But, God is working to answer our prayers in a nonspecific way. Perhaps, the mountain that you’ve been waiting to be moved is down the street from the one you keep watching.

I used to say that Spirit answered my prayers about finance in unusual ways. I would find many people wanting to trade services for things I needed to pay for. One year, I added up the amount I would have had to pay for services and it was $8000—including dentistry, tree service, maid service, yard work, and even roof repair. This is Spirit working in ways unexpected, which we need to recognize in all areas of our lives—especially relationships.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a friend moan about not having an intimate relationship in his/her life, when the best friend is in love and would be the perfect mate. We have to learn to pray without boundaries. When you pray, let your prayer be: “Spirit, however you see fit, fill this need! In the unfettered abundance of Your universe, show me direction! I can’t see my future through my humanness, so show me the way with the eyes of Spirit!” When we learn to let go of our expectation and wait on the Lord, we will be filled beyond our belief.


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The Secret: Don’t Be Attached to Results

I have spent much of my life working for something and have become completely attached to the result of that ephemeral thing happening. But just as life eludes us often, so life eluded me with this aspect of it.

I remember the first time I dreamed of writing a book. It felt like a pipe dream, until one day I bought a computer with the intention to write. I began with a chapter that I thought was chilling and wonderful. I shared it with a good friend. He was completely critical. I stopped writing for a short while.

I decided to get writing lessons, before I would try writing again. I did so and finished writing my first novel. I took it to a couple editors who tore it apart. It slaughtered my spirit once again. But this time, I had the courage to simply work through the changes and rewrite the book.

Once the book was finished, I began shopping the book for agents and publishers. After fifty or sixty rejection letters, I figured that the book wasn’t good enough. I decided to get more education. I went to writer’s conferences and got rewired for the business. I took a job in PR at a publishing company. I made friends with the editors and landed a job editing books.

After editing forty books, I felt as if I had a handle on the writing process. After trying to do public relations on twenty books, I had a handle on what it took to get a book from press to a reader’s hands.

I began to write my next novel. This time I felt confident that I could get a publisher. I had a very good plan. The novel was good. I found an agent fairly easily. He pitched it to every major publisher in New York. Everyone rejected it. I got a lot of praise for my writing, but no one liked it enough and thought it was marketable enough to publish it—bottom line—it didn’t come from authentic me.

Step three: writing a book that could be a Bestseller. Off to the bookstore again to read everything I could about writing a bestseller. I took another year to write a haunting mystery about a drug ring run by a matriarch and her gay son. Again, I had some great interest, but I didn’t get the big break I expected.

Finally after many daunting rejections, I went to a writer’s conference and read a short story that I wrote in about an hour in one of the classes. That short story led me to my first publishing deal with Bellebooks. There was no trying. It was simply laid before me.

I spent six years laboring over three novels and nothing but rejection letters piled up on my desk. But suddenly, when I least expected it, God finds a simple short story good enough to get a publisher to make me an offer on my first publishing deal.

When I had no attachments to what was happening; when I was prepared for my future but not knocking down doors to get it, when I was following my heart to visit an old friend and accompany her to a writer’s conference, success followed me.

I learned a lot from that long experience. I actually hung up on a literary agent a week ago, because I wasn’t willing to play publishing games and talk bullshit when I know the real story of success. My next book is God’s book.

I don’t doubt with anything in my heart that success is wrought with hard work and diligence and paying strong attention to the market and to your craft. But one thing is always missing when you play the game scientifically. You always forget that only with the hand of God can anything happen.

And if you are walking along a spiritual path, your growth is way more important to Spirit than any publishing deal. So, if you have to lose a deal to get stronger and gain depth of soul, be prepared to learn that lesson first. If you have to learn to give up the dream and work as a servant to someone to gain perspective on success, then you probably will find yourself waiting tables.

Success comes down to one word—God! He/She who waits on the Lord will find peace.


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