The Fair Maiden and the Three Monks #lettinggothepast #yourstory #anxiety #encorecareer
June 21, 2014
In Buddhism, a monk is never supposed to touch a woman. However, when three monks wandered in the woods came across a beautiful young maiden who couldn’t make it over a waterway, one monk gallantly picked her up and carried her across the river, so she wouldn’t get wet.
Hours later, after much frustration, his compatriot said to him, “How dare you pick up that woman. It is against all of our training and laws to do so.”
The monk who carried the woman replied, “I have set her down at the river’s edge, hours ago. When will you release her?”
This old tale speaks of carrying around the past or, more appropriately, our story about the past. I had a very interesting experience happen to me as I have been trying to let go of my own past, before I move to Florida. I had emailed an ex, who had to my knowledge post-relationship, had had about 5 affairs while we were together. He hurt me more than any one person could, as far as commitment goes. I wrote to him and just inquired how he was doing, in an effort to let go of my past. To my surprise, he wrote back a scathing letter; telling me that I had never honored him, made fun of him, and didn’t enter into his pain with him.
I started to write back this angry letter, then midsentence, I stopped and rewrote: “If you are willing to let go of your story of the past, I am, also, willing to let go of mine. Because, we obviously are seeing our relationship in two different ways.”
In the subsequent letter, he let me know that to become a friend now, I would not only have to let go of my story, but have to agree to enter into his pain with him and help him heal from the past. Still, I’m not so sure I want to swim across that wide lake to get to his pain; especially, because doing so would be exactly opposite of what my intention was—to release the past.
I find, that many times, in my sadness about moving, the first person I think about calling to share my angst is usually someone I, absolutely, shouldn’t call. It’s as if my subconscious mind cooks up stories and pain to recapitulate the past and bring back the very souls I wish to release. I get it now. My ego wants to hold on to my past, while my spirit wants to live in the present and look forward to the amazing vistas in my future.
So, if you keep trying to manage the past or “your story” by recapitulating old relationships, you may just try letting go completely and see how that feels. Often, Spirit will bring new relationships into your life that will give you the chance to make a different choice, one that you couldn’t make in the past.
I have seen this in my own life and know for certain that as I plunge forward, shoulder deep, into the waters of my future that I will make better choices where relationship is concerned. Now, as I can move away from those people who continue to see me as my “old story” will no longer have a tale to tell that concerns me.
Not all of us can pack up and move away from our past, but sometimes, after twenty-five years, you need to make a safe and secure move into a place that feels right and deliberate. For me, this move is more about being close to three loving sisters, my mother, my dog, my two close brother-in-laws, and three nieces and nephews, whom I wish to see grow into wonderful adults. I, also, have twenty friends who live in the area who I will be move toward. So, I don’t feel as if I’m alone at all. I feel as if I’m just entering into a world that welcomes me with open arms and gives me a great chance to have an encore career, as well. Be Blessed today!
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