What Are You Thinking?
October 19, 2013
“He who wanders in another person’s mind is lost!”
I have spent my life wondering what other people think about me, definitely to the detriment of my life. The above quotation by an anonymous author defines my sentiments exactly. I can barely know what I’m thinking most of the time, let alone, try to figure out what someone else is thinking.
I have this man who snubs me every time he sees me. I have absolutely no idea why he does this. I have never, to my recollection, done anything that would cause this person to hate me or dislike me. On the contrary, as usual, I have probably done every thing possible for him to like me. Because, you know, I have been programmed that way. If someone doesn’t like me, I work, like hell, to try to MAKE him/her like me.
Listen, I get it! This is an annoying habit. In the past 3 years I have tried my best to let other people’s opinions about me go away. I have let go of friends who have held on because of my nice inquiries about their health and love life. I have let go of friendships who take and never give back. I have dropped away from trying to attract people who simply don’t want to attach in anyway.
The old me, before I read Amir Levine’s “Attached.”, would have done every thing he could to get any person, especially one who doesn’t like me, to like me. I would have stepped passed every personal boundary to care about what someone else was thinking about me.
This kind of thinking and life is like playing God. It’s exhausting. As I have known for a very long time, I have the best friends a man would possible want. I could call a number of people in the middle of the night and any one of them would come to my rescue. However, other people in my life have decided that my personality didn’t jive with theirs or they moved away and didn’t want to stay in touch. I get that. I have had the same thing happen.
Also, when you get into a new intimate relationship, life changes. You don’t have as much time to hang out with single people as you had in the past. I try to accommodate by going to lunch, but some of my single friends just simply write me off when I’m in a new relationship. I can hear them saying, “I’ll get back to him in a year when he starts to get bored.” As I certainly hope that isn’t true for my relationship, I can understand that sentiment as well.
The truth, though, we can’t know what anyone else is thinking about us. And more importantly, what they think about us just simply isn’t our business. Too many people talk shit about other and when we listen to that stuff, we get the impression that someone probably is also talking about us. We even get more paranoid when we are the instigators for such talk.
My theory about this is that, if you keep your focus on your own mind and self inquiry about your instincts and feelings, you won’t have time for petty crap about others. I know I must sound a bit jaded on the subject, as I have used language I don’t generally use in a blog. But, I’m doing it to make a point.
Other people are not your business. You are your business. Make it a point to be the best person you can be. Let God and Spirit be your only judge. Let your heart lead you to peace in this way, and you won’t be concerned with what others think. You will act and love from an authentic place of wisdom. Nothing is better than that.
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